Episode 22: Why Do I Get On The Attack With Certain People?

In this engaging episode of Why Do I Do That?, host Jess delves into a question many of us face: why do we feel the need to be on the attack around certain people? Whether it's a friend, a family member, or the all-too-familiar mother-in-law, Jess breaks down the triggers behind these interactions and offers insights into how to navigate them with more ease.

Jess highlights that it's natural not to like or get along with everyone, but things become tricky when we can't easily distance ourselves from these individuals. Through personal anecdotes and client stories, Jess explores how certain people remind us of unresolved issues from our past, often evoking childhood dynamics. She introduces powerful self-inquiry tools like asking, "Who do they remind you of?" and "What part of me are they bringing out?" These questions help uncover deeper reasons behind our reactions, enabling us to heal and coexist with those who push our buttons.

By shifting from an attack mode to curiosity, Jess encourages listeners to look inward and ask: what is the threat I feel, and is it real? She also shares practical tips, like the disarming “airhead response,” which neutralises conflict and shifts the burden of the argument back to the other person. With humour and wisdom, Jess emphasises that healing is not about cutting people off, but rather about understanding the parts of ourselves that others trigger.

Whether you're navigating difficult relationships or simply want to learn how to be less reactive, this episode is packed with valuable advice that will leave you feeling empowered to handle even the most challenging interactions. Tune in for an insightful, transformative discussion!