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Episode 28: Red Flags in Dating – What to Spot and How to Handle Them

In this episode of Why Do I Do That?, Jess and Steph dive into the world of dating red flags with honesty, humor, and actionable advice. Here's what they cover:

  • Personal Red Flags
  • Jess shares her ability to emotionally disconnect and avoid repair.
  • Steph reflects on her own avoidance tendencies and how she's working to overcome them.
  • Common Red Flags in Dating
  • Bad manners or disrespectful behavior.
  • Talking excessively about exes—whether positive or negative.
  • Cocky or arrogant egos and what they might reveal.
  • People with no friends or poor-quality social circles.
  • Audience-Submitted Red Flags
  • Crazy eyes and gut feelings of discomfort.
  • Overly sexual comments or behavior, especially when inappropriate or unsolicited.
  • Dishonesty, even when the truth is harmless.
  • Key Insights and Takeaways
  • Context matters: Is it truly a red flag, or could it be nerves or past trauma?
  • Recognizing attachment styles: Anxious attachment can manifest as "too much, too soon."
  • Healthy dating practices: "Abundance dating" helps those with anxious tendencies gain perspective.
  • Self-reflection: Are you projecting past fears, or is this behavior genuinely concerning?
  • Empowering Advice
  • Focus on how someone makes you feel rather than ticking boxes of red flags.
  • Dating is about collecting data—learn from every interaction to refine your boundaries and values.
  • Be willing to communicate and give space for growth, but know when to walk away.

    • This episode is a candid, relatable, and practical guide to navigating red flags and finding clarity in the dating world. Perfect for anyone looking to date with more awareness and confidence!

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    Why Do I Do That?By Jessica Ella