Feminists are often asked why they hate men so much. But, the question that us women and non-men should be asking ourselves is why we continue to like men. What are the systemic, sociological, emotional, and political reasons that we still seek out relationships with men under patriarchy? Juno discusses these questions with their friend Nicole, during this guest episode. This episode is inspired by the insightful, extremely intimate, and politically-charged podcast series called "Why Do I Like Men," which was hosted by the award-winning journalist Harron Walker. You can, AND SHOULD, check out that podcast on Apple Podcasts here.Follow on Twitter: @JunoMariah

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This is the second episode of Consent is Not Radical (Part 3), carried over from the last episode. In the third installment of my Consent is Not Radical series, I focus on ways in which radical consent theory reinforces erotophobia by casting sexual acts and expression that occur in public as unethical and harmful when they lack the consent of bystanders who witness it.

In this episode, I focus more on indecent exposure, public sex, the relationship between minors and consent, the effects of sexual media on children/adolescents, the morality of causing others emotional harm, trauma triggers, and the politics of sex radicalism.

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Links to references used:

Thinking Sex: Notes for a Radical Theory of the Politics of Sexuality by Gayle Rubin: https://sites.middlebury.edu/sexandsociety/files/2015/01/Rubin-Thinking-Sex.pdf

Korean Spa transgender controversy: https://losangeles.cbslocal.com/2021/06/30/koreatowns-wi-spa-at-center-of-controversy-after-complaint-about-transgender-customer/

Children and sexual exposure resources:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/real-healing/201208/overexposed-and-under-prepared-the-effects-early-exposure-sexual-content

https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2007/02/sexualization

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6751001/

https://openpsychologyjournal.com/contents/volumes/V5/TOPSYJ-5-1/TOPSYJ-5-1.pd

Trauma resources:

DSM-V version of trauma: https://www.istss.org/ISTSS_Main/media/Documents/ISTSS_DSM-5_Friedman_FINAL_Updated.pdf

Critiques of DSM-IV version and proposed wider definition: https://www.sagepub.com/sites/default/files/upm-binaries/11559_Chapter_1.pdf

Criterion creep and pre-traumatic stress disorder: https://web.b.ebscohost.com/abstract?direct=true&profile;=ehost&scope;=site&authtype;=crawler&jrnl;=15384985&AN;=18780399&h;=hpg6rRQiEbYaszn%2fmsXrgsWMNJNN6iGQOtifnEbMeUXsU%2bgdEuLeeu4iX4vnRKxhDa%2bpb7GNgGPT1SppYYHwjA%3d%3d&crl;=f&resultNs;=AdminWebAuth&resultLocal;=ErrCrlNotAuth&crlhashurl;=login.aspx%3fdirect%3dtrue%26profile%3dehost%26scope%3dsite%26authtype%3dcrawler%26jrnl%3d15384985%26AN%3d18780399

 

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Consent is Not Radical (Part 3 Continued): Erotophobia and Bystander Consent

In the third installment of my Consent is Not Radical series, I focus on ways in which radical consent theory reinforces erotophobia by casting sexual acts and expression that occur in public as unethical and harmful when they lack the consent of bystanders who witness it. I talk about why I am opposed to that consent-based standard for judging the ethics and public tolerance of sexual and kinky acts, which is based on a desire to oppose erotophobia and to promote sexual/bodily autonomy. I describe the basics of erotophobia, indecency, and obscenity, as well as how religious ideas about sexuality and purity impact our cultural reaction to public sexuality. At the end, I describe my thoughts about children seeing various forms of kink in public.

This third part of Consent is Not Radical spans two episodes, because there is so much content. So, this is only the first episode. The next one will come out in a couple of weeks.

As always, the thoughts I share in this episode are not set in stone. I am always growing and changing in my opinions, and I am open to critique. I am looking forward to comments, critiques, and questions that this episode raises in listeners. You can share this episode on social media with your own commentary, leave a comment in any of the podcast apps, or email me directly to share thoughts.

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Links/References:

Thinking Sex: Notes for a Radical Theory of the Politics of Sexuality, by Gayle Rubin: https://sites.middlebury.edu/sexandsociety/files/2015/01/Rubin-Thinking-Sex.pdf

Sex and Germs: The Politics of AIDS by Cindy Patton:

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1862267.Sex_and_Germs

Radical Consent resources:

https://sherights.com/2015/02/10/why-radical-consent-makes-me-a-better-man/

https://reachma.org/what-is-consent-really-hint-its-way-more-than-just-about-sex/?fbclid=IwAR1HVjLkZlGewK1zujSyxkuAlzRhcboE1X8WJfOv-eDrOkjN887NB6BCey8

https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/conflict-break-up/consensual-relationships/?fbclid=IwAR3UFkMU9UDYtqOSpiruhOm4kHulLbwUiEpBQVKFWdKaqPcKC6A2U923DVE

http://justiceandpeaceconsulting.com/sexuality-education-for-all-bodies/parenting-for-consent-and-healthy-sexuality-workshops/preemptive-radical-consent/

https://theswaddle.com/how-to-ask-for-non-sexual-consent/

https://everydayfeminism.com/2015/11/practice-consent-beyond-sex/

Anthony Comstock: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anthony_Comstock

Obscenity standards: https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/obscenity

Grocery Store Kink Scene: https://www.ladbible.com/news/weird-photo-of-dominatrix-walking-man-through-supermarket-on-lead-goes-viral-20201019

Kat Blaque video on public kink scenes: https://youtu.be/pnyn7WtD-hw

Kink in Public and Consent: https://lifeofakinkywife.com/consent-and-kink-in-public/

Respectability Politics: https://theundefeated.com/features/respectability-politics-how-a-flawed-conversation-sabotages-black-lives/

https://www.dissentmagazine.org/article/the-rise-of-respectability-politics

Adultism: https://www.youthonboard.org/adultism

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/280102266_Adultism

 

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Consent is Not Radical (Part 3): Erotophobia and Bystander Consent

This episode is about the fallibility of human beings, sexual violation, the complicated nature of consent, accountability in the age of cancel culture, and the importance of having compassion for our shadow selves. I delve into what it might mean to practice self-accountability and the kind of culture that is most conducive to that process for people.

This episode is also deeply connected to Satanism for me. I question how to apply tenets 1 and 6 of The Satanic Temple to cases of sexual harm in our communities/social networks. The first tenet states, "One should strive to act with compassion and empathy toward all creatures in accordance with reason." The sixth tenet states, "People are fallible. If one makes a mistake, one should do one's best to rectify it and resolve any harm that might have been caused." However, the content of this episode will be relevant to anyone, not only Satanists. 

Note: This episode does not represent the views of The Satanic Temple as a religious organization, and I don't speak for anyone else involved in TST. These are my opinions, and I held them before becoming involved with TST. I am, however, inspired by the tenets and their connection to my own values.

Content warning: there are detailed descriptions of non-consensual sex, because the details are important to disclose in this context. 

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References:

The Satanic Temple 7 Tenets

"We Are All Survivors, We Are All Perpetrators" zine

Mr. Girl "Consent is Complicated" video

Adrienne Maree Brown on transformative justice and cancel culture

"Virtuous Pedophiles" support group for people with pedophilia

Academy of Ideas video on Carl Jung's "shadow self" theory

"Our Story of Rape and Reconciliation" Ted Talk

 

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We Are All Perpetrators

In this rhizomatic episode, Juno and their semantically-minded friend Clara get critical about philosophical topics ranging from the difference between ethics and morals, morally loaded language, the concept of “linguistic fencing,” selfishness and asking for what you want, cooperative individualism, the coercive nature of society, rejecting the label of “feminist,” radical feminist approaches to gender and the meaning of TERF, as well as domination and submission. 

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Philosophical Clara-fication: Language, Morality, Power, and Politics

Juno talks about their development of moral nihilism and political pessimism, and their dissolution with the anarchist idealism that they used to have. They also talk about the desire to focus on small, local community building for the sake of creating resilience and pleasure under capitalism in their lifetime, and the importance of recognizing and deconstructing the insidious hierarchies, domination, and power inequality that arise in leftist and anarchist spaces.
 


A lot of this episode is filled with Juno's doubts, skepticism, and questions about things that they don't know the answers to. Feel free to engage in dialogue with them about the content of this episode and to give your critiques. 
 
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References

"Because I Wanted To," Kaneko Fumiko: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/max-res-kaneko-fumiko-because-i-wanted-to 

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