In this episode, we explore why many of us find it easier to show compassion to others than to ourselves. The key insight centers on perspective - we can see others objectively as part of their environment, but we lack that same distance when viewing ourselves. Learn how to create the perspective needed for self-compassion through a simple but powerful exercise that can transform your relationship with yourself.

What many high-achieving professionals experience is the ability to extend deep compassion to others while maintaining harsh standards for themselves. We can understand the contextual factors affecting colleagues, friends, and family, yet fail to grant ourselves the same understanding.

This disparity isn't random - it stems from our inability to create distance from ourselves. While we can step back and see the full picture of someone else's challenges, we remain immersed in our own experience, hyper-focused on goals, shortcomings, or obstacles.

The result is that we often internalize critical perspectives that were originally imposed on us by others - perspectives that keep us stuck, small, and unable to access the compassion we so freely give away.

When we work with others, the natural distance allows us to view them objectively - as part of the system and environment that has shaped them. This perspective enables compassion almost automatically.

What I've observed in my coaching practice is that clients often experience genuine self-compassion for the first time during our sessions. Not because I'm doing anything magical, but because the coaching relationship provides that needed distance to see themselves more objectively.

This newfound perspective allows people to witness their own story with fresh eyes, appreciating the full scope of their humanity - their strengths, their tenderness, and parts of themselves they may have previously rejected.

"In a world where making you feel like you're not good enough is the currency for power, it's a quiet revolution to be self-compassionate."

This insight reveals why self-compassion feels so challenging - it's not just a personal struggle but a countercultural act. When systems profit from our self-doubt, treating ourselves with compassion becomes a form of resistance.

To begin experiencing self-compassion, try this simple experiment:

This exercise creates the perspective needed to access self-compassion by temporarily stepping outside yourself to witness your experience more objectively.

When you noticed the difference between how you would treat a loved one experiencing difficult emotions versus how you treat yourself, what surprised you most? What might change if you brought this awareness into your daily life?

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My Breathing Mind Podcast is created for professionals navigating stress, burnout, and the journey back to peace and purpose. All episodes are written and produced by Ruth Kao Barr, burnout specialist, leadership & wellbeing coach.