I do value what other people receive from me. But I should not be concerned or worried about how it is perceived. I cannot change people's perceptions because people see others based on a reflection of self. We don’t want to feel poorly about ourselves, so we will see other people in a way that justifies and protects who we are. We begin seeing things like a limited wardrobe as a way to help us feel better about ourselves. 

You cannot compete with me sister or brother, I want you to be successful too.