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What if addiction isn't about substances at all…but about escaping reality?
Today Aaron Hale sits down with Ken Miller, a Dartmouth grad, former felon, and now a man with 21+ years of sobriety, to unpack a harder truth most people avoid:
The real addiction is leaving reality–and there are no good excuses for doing it.
Ken traces his path from foster care, violence, and prison to building multiple businesses, mentoring men across the country, and living with clarity and discipline. He explains why emotional pain never justifies relapse, why cliches block real thinking, and why authenticity requires far more than honesty–it requires responsibility.
This conversation isn't about motivation or self-help shortcuts. It's about truth, perception, and what it actually takes to face life without numbing, masking, or running.
0:00 Intro 0:34 Addicted to leaving reality 2:33 Childhood, foster care, and early trauma 7:50 Intelligence, privilege, and first exposure to alcohol 9:17 Ken's definition of an alcoholic 13:38 Escaping reality with chemicals 17:30 Why no emotional pain justifies using 20:37 Making amends by showing up 26:21 Dropping personas and "Becoming Ken" 29:47 The turning point 33:31 What it means to finally be well 40:30 Why cliches are lazy thinking 46:07 Forgiveness, resentment, and letting go 57:29 Life after addiction 59:40 Countdown to Impact
Resources Mentioned: Connect with Ken:
📍 LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kenmiller84/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📚 Ken's Book: Becoming Ken https://amzn.to/3NIN4jt
📚 The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem — Nathaniel Branden https://amzn.to/49qc6v1
📚 The Speed of Trust — Stephen Covey https://amzn.to/450ApOO
📚 Deep Work — Cal Newport https://amzn.to/4jBG0Bo
Disclosure: Some of the links in these show notes are affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you purchase through them (at no extra cost to you).
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What if addiction isn't about substances at all…but about escaping reality?
Today Aaron Hale sits down with Ken Miller, a Dartmouth grad, former felon, and now a man with 21+ years of sobriety, to unpack a harder truth most people avoid:
The real addiction is leaving reality–and there are no good excuses for doing it.
Ken traces his path from foster care, violence, and prison to building multiple businesses, mentoring men across the country, and living with clarity and discipline. He explains why emotional pain never justifies relapse, why cliches block real thinking, and why authenticity requires far more than honesty–it requires responsibility.
This conversation isn't about motivation or self-help shortcuts. It's about truth, perception, and what it actually takes to face life without numbing, masking, or running.
0:00 Intro 0:34 Addicted to leaving reality 2:33 Childhood, foster care, and early trauma 7:50 Intelligence, privilege, and first exposure to alcohol 9:17 Ken's definition of an alcoholic 13:38 Escaping reality with chemicals 17:30 Why no emotional pain justifies using 20:37 Making amends by showing up 26:21 Dropping personas and "Becoming Ken" 29:47 The turning point 33:31 What it means to finally be well 40:30 Why cliches are lazy thinking 46:07 Forgiveness, resentment, and letting go 57:29 Life after addiction 59:40 Countdown to Impact
Resources Mentioned: Connect with Ken:
📍 LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/kenmiller84/
📧 Email: [email protected]
📚 Ken's Book: Becoming Ken https://amzn.to/3NIN4jt
📚 The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem — Nathaniel Branden https://amzn.to/49qc6v1
📚 The Speed of Trust — Stephen Covey https://amzn.to/450ApOO
📚 Deep Work — Cal Newport https://amzn.to/4jBG0Bo
Disclosure: Some of the links in these show notes are affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you purchase through them (at no extra cost to you).