Episode 13 | Why Feedback Feels Like a Threat (and Why Leaders Get Defensive)

Receiving feedback is part of leadership—but that doesn't mean it's easy.

In this episode of The Leadership Break, Paula explores why even thoughtful, well-intentioned leaders sometimes feel defensive when feedback is offered. Defensiveness isn't a character flaw—it's often a natural response to feeling that our competence, identity, or belonging is being questioned.

In this conversation, Paula discusses how leaders can pause, reflect, and begin to see feedback as valuable information rather than personal criticism.

In this episode:

• Why feedback can feel threatening for leaders
• The three common defensive reactions leaders experience
• The difference between intent and impact
• A powerful question that can change how you receive feedback

Reflection Questions

• When was the last time feedback made you feel defensive?
• What story did your mind immediately begin telling?
• What part of your leadership identity may have felt challenged?

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