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For women tired of leading in love, explore, share, and discover what safe, conscious connection really feels like. Strong in life, exhausted in love.
https://www.skool.com/relationship-revolutions-5514/about
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Alan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.
With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.
His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.
As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.
Website www.theloveengineer.rocks
Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/
Summary
In this episode, Alan Watts discusses a unique approach to relationship counseling that emphasises individual work before couples therapy. He critiques traditional counseling methods, suggesting they often leave individuals feeling stuck in emotional currents.
Instead, he advocates for building a solid foundation on each side of the relationship before attempting to bridge the gap. This involves understanding personal blueprints, communication styles, and emotional needs. The conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness and personal growth in fostering healthy relationships.
Takeaways
Traditional counseling often leaves individuals feeling stuck.
Building individual foundations is crucial before couples work.
Each partner must understand their own relationship blueprint.
Men often attend counseling to appease their partners.
Emotional and logical elements must be balanced in relationships.
The goal is not identical blueprints but understanding differences.
Couples must be willing to do their own work.
Conscious separation can sometimes be the healthiest option.
Strong individuals create a strong relationship foundation.
The relationship you want requires personal growth first.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Relationship Coaching
03:29 The Flaws of Traditional Couples Counseling
05:27 Building Individual Foundations
07:12 The Bridge Building Process
09:46 Understanding Relationship Blueprints
11:18 Conclusion and Key Takeaways
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By Alan Watts - The Love EngineerJoin the Control to Connection Community
For women tired of leading in love, explore, share, and discover what safe, conscious connection really feels like. Strong in life, exhausted in love.
https://www.skool.com/relationship-revolutions-5514/about
Contact Info
Alan Watts The Love Engineer, a coach whose mission is to help high-achieving, emotionally intelligent women stop pushing away the very men they say they long for. Combining wisdom in attachment, nervous system healing, and relational dynamics, Alan guides women from over-functioning, anxiety-driven patterns into presence, ease, and receiving love without losing themselves.
With his signature approach, Alan unpacks the operating systems that silently sabotage attraction and teaches women how to rewire their bodies to trust steady masculine energy.
His work isn’t about strategy or “dating hacks” it’s about nervous system upgrades, inner integration, and creating chemistry through safety.
As host of Relationship Revolutions, Alan leads honest conversations about real love, the behind-the-scenes of how we heal, do less, and let the kind of men we claim to want finally feel possible.
Website www.theloveengineer.rocks
Linked in https://www.linkedin.com/in/loveengineer/
Summary
In this episode, Alan Watts discusses a unique approach to relationship counseling that emphasises individual work before couples therapy. He critiques traditional counseling methods, suggesting they often leave individuals feeling stuck in emotional currents.
Instead, he advocates for building a solid foundation on each side of the relationship before attempting to bridge the gap. This involves understanding personal blueprints, communication styles, and emotional needs. The conversation highlights the importance of self-awareness and personal growth in fostering healthy relationships.
Takeaways
Traditional counseling often leaves individuals feeling stuck.
Building individual foundations is crucial before couples work.
Each partner must understand their own relationship blueprint.
Men often attend counseling to appease their partners.
Emotional and logical elements must be balanced in relationships.
The goal is not identical blueprints but understanding differences.
Couples must be willing to do their own work.
Conscious separation can sometimes be the healthiest option.
Strong individuals create a strong relationship foundation.
The relationship you want requires personal growth first.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Relationship Coaching
03:29 The Flaws of Traditional Couples Counseling
05:27 Building Individual Foundations
07:12 The Bridge Building Process
09:46 Understanding Relationship Blueprints
11:18 Conclusion and Key Takeaways