The idea that men should be rewarded with sex for doing basic housework is insulting, transactional, and rooted in the belief that domestic labor belongs to women.

In this episode of Why I Hate Being a Wife, I break down why choreplay doesn’t create intimacy, why it actually fuels resentment, and why doing the dishes won’t fix a relationship built on inequality.

We also highlight why:

• Sex isn’t a reward.

• Housework isn’t help.

• And partnership isn’t transactional.

If you’re exhausted, resentful, and wondering why desire disappeared, you’re not broken. You’re overwhelmed.