Most people assume intimacy starts with desire. But I don’t move that way. This episode is a meditation on asexuality, emotional literacy, and reclaiming the right to be full without being “awakened.”

In this episode, I explore what it means to exist on the asexual spectrum in a world that demands performance. We talk about the loss of emotional depth in modern intimacy, the pressure to sexualise connection, and what it really means to honour your inner compass when desire is conditional, not automatic. This isn’t repression. It’s clarity.

What You'll Hear:

Why modern intimacy often feels hollow

The link between performative sexuality and emotional immaturity

What it means to be asexual or demisexual in an allonormative world

How withholding desire can be a radical act of self-honour

Redefining connection outside of conquest culture

"Access to me is a privilege, not a reward for charm or persistence."

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Why I’m Not “Missing” Anything. - by Tolani, MSc.

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