Join me and my friend Dr. Rob Murray on this episode as we talk about ghosting. Have you ever been ghosted? Or maybe you are a ghoster? It has become common in our culture to manage our fear and anxiety of letting people down by just vanishing. When we do this we often leave people in a place of having to finish the story on their own. Our brains desperately want closure and often the way we fill in the blanks of that story is rooted in our old stories of rejection and shame about who we are. Being IN relationship means someone else is impacted by our behavior. Situations of ghosting are usually rooted in people pleasing, indirect boundaries, and fear of letting people down and both parties suffer. When we are focused on ourselves or our own shame we miss the opportunity to give the other person closure and potentially a deeper conversation to create healing and possibly resolution or a solution. Join us on this episode as we talk about how many of the ways we attempt to stay safe in relationships are strategies that don’t give us what we really want. 

 

ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…

- What is “ghosting”

- Reasons we abruptly leave hard conversations  

- Why we need to increase our capacity to sit in discomfort  

- Common strategies we use to diffuse anxiety in relationships

- The difference between healthy and unhealthy conflict

- The problem with using the withdrawal tactic in relationships

- Confusing distance and cutoff with healthy boundaries

- And more! 

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