Do you long to make deep, heart-to-heart connections with your husband? You might be surprised to learn that he wants the same thing. But his efforts come in disguise. Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins explore the topic of sex and why this simple physical act carries such complex emotional weight for your husband. Understand the difference between assertive desire and receptive desire. Learn what to do when you're tired. Discover why your desire for your husband (not just the physical act of sex) is what delights him and gives him a sense of well-being.
Show Notes and Resources
 	For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
 	Read the Blog post from Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma, offers hope, encouragement, and direction to wives who have a stronger sexual drive than their husbands – a situation that probably happens in one of five marriages.  https://shaunti.com/2015/11/when-she-has-the-stronger-sex-drive-part-one/

1: Why Is He So Interested in Sex?

We got married because we thought we’d be better together rather than apart. So why is it so easy to feel isolated from your life-long partner? Host, author, and fellow married pilgrim, Brian Goins, tackles the relational pitfalls, from the trivial to the tragic, that move couples towards isolation rather than experiencing the real benefits that come from saying “I do.”

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Is marriage worth it? If you've never wondered yourself, you may have had someone ask you that question. In this special teaser episode to Season 4 of Married with Benefits, hosts Shaunti Feldhahn and Brian Goins are joined by Dr. Brad Wilcox, a renowned sociologist specializing in marriage and family research. Dr. Wilcox is a Professor of Sociology and Director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, as well as the Future of Freedom Fellow at the Institute for Family Studies. 
Join us for this conversation exploring why more and more people are doubting marriage's value and what the research actually says. You'll also learn data-backed practical advice for building a happy marriage and family -- for yourself or for a friend!
Show Notes and Resources
	Learn more and connect with Dr. Brad Wilcox
	His new book "Get Married: Why Americans Must Defy the Elites, Forge Strong Families, and Save Civilization" can be purchased hereor anywhere books are sold.
	Learn more about his work and research with the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia at nationalmarriageproject.org and the Institute for Family Studies at ifstudies.org.
	FamilyLife has a brand-new course to help you strengthen your marriage and move towards more joy! The the all-new Art of Marriageis masterfully designed to inspire and equip today's couples: whether newly married, seasoned, empty nesters, or part of a blended family. And for more resources on building a happy marriage and family, check out familylife.com.

Is Marriage Past its Prime? Dr. Brad Wilcox

Could your sex life be missing the point? Dr. Michael Sytsma talks about why we have sex…and the key to wow-level sex that changes everything.
Show Notes and Resources
 	Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
 	For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
 	Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference.

8. Is Your Sex Life Missing the Point?

Has your married sex coasted into the blahs? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma's got solutions to keep you both captivated in the bedroom.
Show Notes and Resources
 	Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
 	For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
 	Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference.

7. When Sex is Boring

Sex can be painful in more ways than one: from trauma, to physical pain, to porn. But these don't need to doom your relationship. Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma offers ideas to transform hurt to eventual healing and wholeness.
Show Notes and Resources
 	Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
 	For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
 	Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference.

6. When Sex is Painful: Dr. Michael Sytsma

Initiating or declining sex: It's tricky. Are your signals clear to your spouse? Sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma helps you with “not tonight” and “yes, please.”
Show Notes and Resources
 	Download our app to listen to Brian Goins, Michael Sytsma and Shaunti Feldhahn as they cover more questions.
 	For more from Shaunti Feldhahn, visit Shaunti.com.
 	Grab Shaunti and Dr. Sytsma's book in our shop: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference.

1: Why Is He So Interested in Sex?

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