Have you ever said yes to something you desperately wanted to say no to — not because you wanted to go, but because the guilt of not going felt worse than the inconvenience of showing up? You're not alone. And you're definitely not crazy.

In the very first episode of I'm Not Crazy, Right?, host Hillary Bautch is asking the question every woman has felt but rarely says out loud: why is it so hard to choose yourself? From canceling plans to staying in relationships too long, Hillary gets honest about the guilt, the people pleasing, and the slow process of learning to put yourself first — without the shame spiral that usually follows. Enjoy!

In this episode we cover:

• Why women default to putting everyone else's needs before their own
• The real reason guilt stops us from choosing ourselves — and why it's more irrational than we think
• How people pleasing shows up in friendships, romantic relationships, and everyday life
• Why staying in the wrong relationship is sometimes about proving something to everyone but yourself
• What it actually looks like to start choosing yourself — starting small, starting now
• How to have honest conversations with friends and partners about your needs without the guilt
• Why protecting your peace isn't selfish — it's necessary

Tune in for new episodes every Thursday! Follow along on social @notcrazyrightpod and @hillarybautch.