When it comes to parenting or working with kiddos with a trauma history or Capital Letter Syndrome, what's your biggest struggle?

One of the respondents to a survey I sent out answered - "Why Isn't My Child Not Listening?" which inspired this series.

Often the kiddo can't listen, not won't. They are not being defiant.

What does your child need to regulate so that they can listen (better.)

If your child has a trauma history and/or a Capital Letter Syndrome-

Schedules are comforting. If the schedule changes, don't expect your child to be able to regulate or listen.

When a child is in survival mode, fight, flight, or freeze, your change can't listen. You must arrange the environment to suit what he needs.

*Try using a wake word with your child such as their name. Pause. Repeat Pause. 

Your child may not be listening because he is tired, hungry, or thirsty. A child with a trauma history or Capital Letter Syndrome - does not recognize her own body's signals for hunger, thirst, or need to go to the bathroom. If their needs were a cellphone - it would be on silent.

There is so much meat in this short coffee break podcast!