It's annoying when you’re trying to have a conversation and your man either clams up and gets cold or raises his voice or starts arguing with you. It seems mysterious why he’s so riled up. If only he’d relax so you could have a normal conversation! I used to be so confused about why my husband would look exasperated when I’d made an innocent comment. It turns out that, without meaning to or even realizing it, I was offending him. I didn’t think he should be offended! But now that I understand how, it’s not surprising he was reacting so badly. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re going to answer the question “Why is my husband so defensive?” I’ll share 3 embarrassing ways I unintentionally made my husband feel he had to protect himself from me. My guest Rachel studied the 6 Intimacy Skills™ before her relationship even started but found that practicing them in theory was very different from practicing them in marriage. Here are the adjustments she made so she now says she’s married to the best husband in the world!

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When I got married, no one had taught me that there are five gifts of femininity that I get to enjoy as my birthright and that my relationship depends on for success. If no one ever taught you either, here they are. I’ll share how you can start enjoying your superpowers of being a woman! On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’m talking about the five gifts of femininity, your birthright as a woman.  Plus, my guest Annie and her husband were fighting a lot, and she felt so disrespected. But from the first time she experimented with the 6 Intimacy Skills™, she got a better response. While they still have their ups and downs, now her husband apologizes to her and her marriage is so rewarding. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

236: The 5 Gifts of Femininity: Your Birthright as a Woman

It’s so discouraging when your husband is diagnosed with something like ADD, OCD, narcissism, Borderline Personality Disorder, anxiety, depression, PTSD, or Dissociative Disorder. Having hitched your wagon to someone with a disorder or deficit can feel like a life sentence of misery. It’s very distressing. Even if you don’t have a formal diagnosis, maybe you’ve done some reading about what you observe in him and you have strong suspicions. While it’s hard to find this out after you’re married, it’s also intriguing because having a diagnosis holds out the promise that he could improve with some kind of treatment, like medicine or therapy. At least that’s how I felt when my husband got his diagnosis, but it all went wrong from there. So on today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’m talking about what to do instead when your husband’s disorder is ruining your marriage. Plus, my guest Katherine’s husband waited until the kids were teens when he said he wanted to separate, which left her feeling abandoned and scared. But that was then. Today he seeks her out, says she’s beautiful and that he is so lucky to have her as his wife. How did Katherine make such a dramatic change in her marriage? She’s going to tell us so you can do it too.

235: My Husband's Mental Illness is Ruining Our Marriage

Especially if physical intimacy has dried up and he’s not interested in you, the rejection hurts and makes you feel pathetic. You’re competing with a two-dimensional woman and losing. It’s only logical that it’s the porn that’s stealing the passion. And you can’t control that. So what are your options? On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’m talking about what to do when your husband is addicted to porn. I’ll share the #1 way to heal. Plus, my guest Melissa struggled with feeling emotionally abused, and there were lots of fights about money. After she implemented all of the Intimacy Skills step by step, she feels like she’s had a whole-life makeover, including in her marriage, which is safe, peaceful and exciting now. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

234: My Husband is Addicted to Porn: #1 Way to Heal

It's such a lonely, scary feeling when your man’s affection dries up. Especially if there was a time when he couldn’t keep his hands off of you or he was always stealing kisses and putting his arm around you. I remember being so confused and worried that I wasn’t attractive anymore. I thought it was because I was older and out of shape, but that had nothing to do with it, I found out. I’m even older now, and all that easy loving is back and better than ever—like when we were falling in love. Now I know that I had gotten ugly, but not physically like I thought. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, we’re talking about two ways to deal with a partner who is not affectionate. Plus, my guest Jacquelyn  was so tired of her husband’s porn and substance addictions, him sleeping on the couch and their sexless marriage. Then she made a decision to better herself, which was really hard at first. But today those addictions are no longer an issue, her marriage is amazing, and she feels adored and happier than she’s ever been. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too!

233: 2 Ways to Deal with a Partner Who is Not Affectionate

If your husband speaks to you disrespectfully, it feels really hurtful and embarrassing, especially if anyone else hears it, even if it’s just your kids. It’s not the role modeling you want them to have. If he’s yelling, swearing, calling you names, or telling you you’re crazy, stupid, or worse, you shouldn’t have to live with feeling demeaned like that by the guy who’s supposed to love and protect you. It’s stressful and bad for your self-esteem. So let’s get you back to feeling safe and adored when he talks to you. On today’s episode of The Empowered Wife Podcast, I’m talking about 3 simple fixes if your husband speaks to you disrespectfully. Plus, my guest Dr. K and her husband were separated on different continents. Since she was the breadwinner and they had a lot of disagreements about parenting, there wasn’t much left to hold on to. But then Dr. K had some insights and changed how she showed up with him. Today her marriage is peaceful and she has a tender husband who takes on responsibilities for their family like never before. She’s going to tell us how she did it so you can do it too.

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