When someone doesn't believe you've changed, how does it make you feel? Do you want to prove to them that you have? What if it doesn't matter? Your past is held in their emotional memories.

According to a study published in Nature Neuroscience(2016), when we experience an emotion, our amygdala is stimulated and adrenaline is released into our bodies. These processes activate the hippocampus which is responsible for memory function, sharpening our memories during that moment.

How we process how the other made us feel is unique to the individual which determines how memories are formed. Although my husband and I share a past, it exists as two parallel paths, creating separate memories as it moves forward with a different lens and context. I will remember how he made me feel and he will remember how I made him feel.