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“Why Love Feels So Good… Until It Doesn’t”
"Real love doesn’t rescue us from our wounds—
it reveals them so we can finally heal together.”
- Glenn S. Cohen
I’ve experienced this in my own life and in my practice: couples who once shared blissful adventures and deep emotional connection now sit on opposite ends of the couch, arms folded, eyes tired from crying, withdrawing and fighting. They look at each other not with longing—but with blame, defensiveness, fear, and confusion.
And they ask: “How did we get here?”
They were once madly in love. They felt seen, understood, desired. But somewhere along the way, that magical WE space turned into a war zone—fractured by unspoken expectations, unresolved wounds, and protective patterns of communication that only deepen the wounds they were meant to heal.
Ironically, the one we love most often becomes the mirror that reflects the parts of ourselves we’d rather not see. When we're triggered, our protective personalities take over. Communication turns from connection to conflict. Most couples don’t have a communication problem—they have a “when I’m triggered” problem.
What breaks my heart is how many couples repeat the same painful loops: conflict without resolution, blame without curiosity, silence that feels louder than words. And beneath it all is a cry for safety, healing, and love.
When they reach out to me, they usually have three options:
1. Stay and accept the status quo.
2. Leave and make peace with that decision.
3. Do their “I work,” nurture “U,” and use the “WE” as a sacred space to stretch, heal, and grow.
That third path is the hardest—but also the most rewarding. It’s not about fixing each other; it’s about facing our wounds and learning how to meet them with compassion.
We can’t love fully if we don’t understand how our nervous system works. That’s why I’m passionate about teaching couples the tools of Neurological IntelligenceÒ—to interrupt disempowered patterns, reclaim their power, and finally create a partnership that’s conscious, connected, and real.
A relationship is like a garden built on ancient soil—its beauty grows when both partners are willing to tend to the roots they never planted. So, have you ever wondered if your relationship challenges are actually your soul’s invitation to heal?
Get full access to Lessons in LIfe, Love and Healing at centerforni.substack.com/subscribe
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By Glenn S. Cohen"Real love doesn’t rescue us from our wounds—
it reveals them so we can finally heal together.”
- Glenn S. Cohen
I’ve experienced this in my own life and in my practice: couples who once shared blissful adventures and deep emotional connection now sit on opposite ends of the couch, arms folded, eyes tired from crying, withdrawing and fighting. They look at each other not with longing—but with blame, defensiveness, fear, and confusion.
And they ask: “How did we get here?”
They were once madly in love. They felt seen, understood, desired. But somewhere along the way, that magical WE space turned into a war zone—fractured by unspoken expectations, unresolved wounds, and protective patterns of communication that only deepen the wounds they were meant to heal.
Ironically, the one we love most often becomes the mirror that reflects the parts of ourselves we’d rather not see. When we're triggered, our protective personalities take over. Communication turns from connection to conflict. Most couples don’t have a communication problem—they have a “when I’m triggered” problem.
What breaks my heart is how many couples repeat the same painful loops: conflict without resolution, blame without curiosity, silence that feels louder than words. And beneath it all is a cry for safety, healing, and love.
When they reach out to me, they usually have three options:
1. Stay and accept the status quo.
2. Leave and make peace with that decision.
3. Do their “I work,” nurture “U,” and use the “WE” as a sacred space to stretch, heal, and grow.
That third path is the hardest—but also the most rewarding. It’s not about fixing each other; it’s about facing our wounds and learning how to meet them with compassion.
We can’t love fully if we don’t understand how our nervous system works. That’s why I’m passionate about teaching couples the tools of Neurological IntelligenceÒ—to interrupt disempowered patterns, reclaim their power, and finally create a partnership that’s conscious, connected, and real.
A relationship is like a garden built on ancient soil—its beauty grows when both partners are willing to tend to the roots they never planted. So, have you ever wondered if your relationship challenges are actually your soul’s invitation to heal?
Get full access to Lessons in LIfe, Love and Healing at centerforni.substack.com/subscribe