There are so many people that have trouble finding someone to settle down with these days. And the main reason is because they don’t want to settle down. They want what they want. And that is great, but the issue is that there is no balance between settling down and finding what they want.   

The older we get, the pickier we are. And people are looking for a unicorn instead of a really amazing horse. Unicorns don’t exist by the way, just to clarify, and that is the point. People are looking for something that doesn’t exist.   

I want to get into it a little deeper with an example from a movie called “Mr. Nobody,” with Jared Leto. Spoiler alert, if you want to watch it then perhaps you shouldn’t continue watching my video. But the example I am using from the film is something that wouldn’t really ruin the plot in my opinion. The film is complicated, it is rich with metaphors and symbolism. It is one of those though films to figure out, similar to “Donnie Darko.”    

In the story there is a young girl who is 15 years old and she is obsessed with an older kid who is cool and has a leather jacket. And he no longer wants anything to do with her, and she is devastated. This other 15 year old boy tells her that he likes her and he wants to marry her one day. She tells him that she is madly In love with this cool kid and will never get over him. The boy insists and tells her that everything will be alright. About 20 years later, they are married with children, and yes, you guessed it, she is miserable, and depressed and still in love with that cool kid. Eventually she leaves her husband and her children. She works at hair salon and while waiting for a client, she is staring at this photo of that cool kid, yes, she is weird. Guess who comes into the salon for a haircut, yes, the cool kid with the leather jacket. Except now he’s older, no longer wears a leather jacket, balding a little, has a little gut, but is still good looking for his age. She gives him a haircut, he pays her, and he leaves. She sits back down to look at that damn photo again. They didn’t even recognize one another! She is obsessed, hoping to see him one day, she did without realizing it, and he isn’t what he used to be which means that she is looking and waiting for someone or something that does not exist!   

Ladies and Gentlemen, yes, you should not settle for just anyone. However, it does seem like you’re taking this “I don’t want to settle for anyone” a little too far. There should be a balance. It’s like when in Seinfeld, again spoiler alert, Jerry is out with an attractive woman, but dumps her because she shushes him and dumps her later again because she eats her peas one at a time.