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Why Saying “We” Works Better Than “You” in Difficult Conversations
Dr. Mohamed Hussein, Assistant Professor of Business at Columbia Business School, shares insights from his study “You Versus We: How Pronoun Use Shapes Perceptions of Receptiveness,” which examines how subtle shifts in pronoun choice influence perceptions of openness in communication. His research reveals that using “we” fosters greater receptiveness and cooperation, while frequent use of “you” may convey defensiveness and weaken persuasiveness.
Dr. Mohamed Hussein’s research shows that small shifts in language can have a powerful impact on how open and receptive we seem in moments of disagreement. By comparing “you” and “we” pronouns across lab experiments and real-world data from over 200,000 Reddit comments, he finds that “you” often comes across as more hostile, triggering defensiveness, resistance, and even higher chances of being censored in adversarial contexts. In contrast, authentic use of “we” softens perceived aggression, signals shared responsibility, and makes people more willing to listen, collaborate, and pass messages along. His work offers practical tools for leaders, managers, and communicators to navigate conflict, deliver tough feedback, and build trust, showing that in polarized times, how we say things can be as important as what we say.
This podcast is brought to you by Global Management Consultancy. For more information, please visit www.globalmanagementconsultancy.com.
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By Business TalkDr. Mohamed Hussein, Assistant Professor of Business at Columbia Business School, shares insights from his study “You Versus We: How Pronoun Use Shapes Perceptions of Receptiveness,” which examines how subtle shifts in pronoun choice influence perceptions of openness in communication. His research reveals that using “we” fosters greater receptiveness and cooperation, while frequent use of “you” may convey defensiveness and weaken persuasiveness.
Dr. Mohamed Hussein’s research shows that small shifts in language can have a powerful impact on how open and receptive we seem in moments of disagreement. By comparing “you” and “we” pronouns across lab experiments and real-world data from over 200,000 Reddit comments, he finds that “you” often comes across as more hostile, triggering defensiveness, resistance, and even higher chances of being censored in adversarial contexts. In contrast, authentic use of “we” softens perceived aggression, signals shared responsibility, and makes people more willing to listen, collaborate, and pass messages along. His work offers practical tools for leaders, managers, and communicators to navigate conflict, deliver tough feedback, and build trust, showing that in polarized times, how we say things can be as important as what we say.
This podcast is brought to you by Global Management Consultancy. For more information, please visit www.globalmanagementconsultancy.com.
Disclaimer:
A. The background music incorporated in this video is the intellectual property of its respective developer and is protected under applicable copyright laws. Notwithstanding that it is a free-to-use version, Business Talk, Global Management Consultancy, and Deepak Bhatt do not own, and expressly do not claim, any rights, title, or interest in or to this music.
B. Dr. Mohamed Hussein shared insightful perspectives from his research, “You Versus We: How Pronoun Use Shapes Perceptions of Receptiveness,” during his conversation on the Business Talk podcast channel. The uploaded video contains copyrighted content, so changing any graphics, music, or on-screen appearance of the author or host is not allowed.