It started as a headline, but it hit like a mirror: “Is having a boyfriend embarrassing now?”
When British Vogue writer Chanté Joseph asked that question, it sounded like a joke until it didn’t. Because maybe it’s not love that’s embarrassing. Maybe it’s the way we were taught to treat being loved like proof of worth. 

This episode looks past the memes and soft-launch jokes to the quiet revolution underneath. The one where women stop performing “chosen” and start living free.
 The old script said partnership was the prize. I believed it once too. I built a marriage that looked perfect online but felt like constant performance offline. And when it fell apart, I thought I had failed. Turns out, it was a promotion into peace, clarity, and finally hearing my own voice again. 

We talk about what Vogue captured so sharply: how women are reclaiming privacy, rejecting performative couple culture, and realizing that single is not a dirty word. It is a declaration.
Because the goal is no longer to be chosen. It is to be aligned.
It is to be at peace. 

The most radical thing you can do in a world that profits off your insecurity is to be okay on your own. 

Being single is not a pause. It is the plot.
 And peace is the new flex. 

If this one hits home, share it with the friend who is tired of explaining why she is single.
 She does not owe the world a reason. She just owes herself peace.

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