We say that we want to change.  We say that we want to grow.  We say things like “I’ve forgiven” or “it’s not really a big deal to me anymore” because we want to be over it.  But the reality is that we're not over it.  And the thought of actually attempting to 'get over it' makes you feel a little sick to your stomach.  That's fear.  

Understanding this fear and why you're stuck is pivotal to you moving forward and creating change.