A betrayed spouse often feels as much (or more) shame as their partner. In this episode Juli welcomes Dr. Sheri Keffer to  share her story about the impact of shame on our minds and bodies when we discover we've been betrayed by the person who is supposed to love us most. 

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#279: Why You Feel Shame When Your Spouse Cheats

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#279: Why You Feel Shame When Your Spouse Cheats

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