Don't Tell Me To Calm Down

Why You Keep Doing It When You Know Better


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You're self-aware. You've done the therapy. You can explain exactly why you people-please, overwork, or struggle with boundaries. So why are you STILL saying yes when you mean no?

 Why do those boundaries keep dissolving?

 In this episode, Dr. Lisa explores why understanding your patterns isn't the same as healing them. She breaks down what core wounds are, why they live in your nervous system (not your thinking mind), and how the false identity you built as a child is suffocating you as an adult.

 Plus, a vulnerable personal story about Dr. Lisa's own core wound and how it shaped decades of her life without her realizing it.

 In This Episode:

  • What core wounds actually are (hint: not just thoughts)
  • Why your identity organized around protecting you from pain
  • Where wounds live in your body—not your mind
  • Why dismantling your defenses feels so scary
  • Why most healing approaches try to fix the false self instead of dissolving it
  • A simple practice: witnessing your wound without fixing it

 Key Quote: "We don't want to improve the false self. We're here to dissolve it so your true self can return."

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ABOUT LISA

I'm a PhD social psychology researcher in women’s wellbeing and a trained shamanic practitioner. My doctoral research confirmed what I had witnessed for decades: modern success culture rewards over-functioning and self-silencing, then punishes women for realizing that the internal cost we're paying is unsustainable. I help women who've outgrown who they've had to be see who they're becoming, and create soul-aligned success through deep healing.

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Don't Tell Me To Calm DownBy Lisa Petty