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Why You Keep Having the Same Fight (and How to Finally Interrupt It)
Having the same fight over and over can leave you feeling exhausted, disconnected, and unsure how to move forward. One person gets heated. The other shuts down. Nothing actually gets resolved, and the distance grows.
In this episode, we explore an evidence-based model (Transactional Model; Fruzetti, 2006) for understanding relationship conflict and why it so often becomes repetitive and intense. Using a real, honest conversation with a long-term couple, we walk through how vulnerability, interpretations, emotional escalation, inaccurate expression, and invalidation all interact to keep couples stuck. As always, we introduce specific tools that you can practice to interrupt these cycles and create real change.
Resources Mentioned:
Book: “The High Conflict Couple” by Alan Fruzzetti (2006)
To contribute to our mission or to access our downloadable infographics and worksheets, find us on Patreon or visit our website.
Music Credit: Nathan Byrne with Reel Byrne Media.
Note: The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not medical or therapeutic advice. Such information is not intended nor otherwise implied to be mental health advice or a substitute for mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment from a mental health or medical professional. If you become distressed and need support, call 988 to access 24/7 mental health support, call 911, or visit your nearest emergency room.
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By guts.Having the same fight over and over can leave you feeling exhausted, disconnected, and unsure how to move forward. One person gets heated. The other shuts down. Nothing actually gets resolved, and the distance grows.
In this episode, we explore an evidence-based model (Transactional Model; Fruzetti, 2006) for understanding relationship conflict and why it so often becomes repetitive and intense. Using a real, honest conversation with a long-term couple, we walk through how vulnerability, interpretations, emotional escalation, inaccurate expression, and invalidation all interact to keep couples stuck. As always, we introduce specific tools that you can practice to interrupt these cycles and create real change.
Resources Mentioned:
Book: “The High Conflict Couple” by Alan Fruzzetti (2006)
To contribute to our mission or to access our downloadable infographics and worksheets, find us on Patreon or visit our website.
Music Credit: Nathan Byrne with Reel Byrne Media.
Note: The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only and is not medical or therapeutic advice. Such information is not intended nor otherwise implied to be mental health advice or a substitute for mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment from a mental health or medical professional. If you become distressed and need support, call 988 to access 24/7 mental health support, call 911, or visit your nearest emergency room.