You're not saying yes because you're a pushover. You're doing it because your nervous system learned — probably early on — that your genuine interior wasn't safe to act from.

This episode covers what's actually happening when you override yourself: the interoception research that explains why your intuition gets quieter over time, how cognitive dissonance rewrites your preferences so you stop feeling the dread, the psychology of the false self, and what self-silencing research says about the long-term cost of chronic self-suppression.

We also get into resentment (it's not irrational — it's information), the avoidance loop that keeps the pattern tightening, and three specific things you can do to start acting from your actual interior instead of a managed exterior.

This one's for anyone who knows they should probably say no more — and can't figure out why they can't seem to stop.

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