In this episode John and April discuss Bids for Emotional Connection as noted by John Gottman and the Gottman institute. Sometimes in our relationships we misjudge things that our significant other does and we think they are being dodgy or difficult about saying what it is that he/she wants from you. In fact, we sometimes may exclaim, "WHY ARE YOU PLAYING GAMES!?!" "Just tell me what you want." Sometimes our significant other could be making a bid for connection and we don't realize it. If we miss to many of these or reject them it could end in extreme resentment and there could be a break up.