Better Relationships After Baby

Why You Start Fights When Things Are Good: Understanding the Upper Limit Problem in Relationships


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Do you ever notice that right when things start feeling really good in your relationship, you pick a fight—or start to feel uneasy for no clear reason? That might be your Upper Limit Problem in action. In this episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Chelsea breaks down the concept from Gay Hendricks’ book, The Big Leap and applies it to your postpartum relationship and beyond.

You’ll learn:

  • What the Upper Limit Problem is and how it shows up in daily life

  • Why we sometimes self-sabotage relationships just as things are improving

  • How to recognize your own emotional limits around joy and connection

  • Steps you can take to stop the cycle and build more peace, intimacy, and trust

This episode is especially helpful for anyone who has thought: Why do I get irritated when everything’s going fine?

🎧 Tune in and get tools to shift from self-sabotage to self-expansion.

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Better Relationships After BabyBy Chelsea Skaggs