You think your child is ignoring you when you yell. But Dr. Amy Moore reveals the shocking neuroscience: their brain literally can't process language during fight-or-flight.

It's not defiance. It's auditory exclusion—an evolutionary survival mechanism.

Dr. Amy Moore is the host of [Brainy Moms Podcast](https://www.thebrainymoms.com/) and specializes in cognitive psychology and ADHD education. Her research spans 5,000+ ADHD brains.

Timestamps:

0:00 — Cold Open: "They Can't Hear You"

0:22 — Introduction & Dr. Amy's Background

2:59 — Why Dr. Amy Became an ADHD Specialist

3:29 — Personal Diagnosis Story

6:31 — Step One: Ruling Out Basic Needs

7:15 — The Attention Myth (Brain shifts focus 4x/second)

8:10 — Why ADHD Brains Get Distracted

9:08 — Fight-or-Flight & Amygdala Hijack

10:23 — What "Defiance" Really Is

15:00 — Auditory Exclusion When Yelling

18:12 — Mirror Neurons & Emotional Contagion

22:00 — Islands of Competence Framework

35:00 — The Bucket Theory

37:14 — Real-World Proof: From "Can't Spell" to College A's

40:33 — Research Findings: Working Memory, Not Attention

42:00 — Closing & Resources

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