“Do you know me?” the email began, sparking tremors of fear that turned into a full quake of panic when William Dameron discovered that his selfie had been stolen by strangers. On social networks and dating sites, his image and identity—a forty-year-old straight white male—had been used to hook countless women into believing in lies of love and romance. Was it all an ironic cosmic joke? Almost a decade prior, William himself had been living a lie that had lasted for more than twenty years. His secret? He was a gay man, a fact he hid from his wife and two daughters for almost as long as he had hidden it from himself. In “The Lie: A Memoir of Two Marriages, Catfishing & Coming Out,” William confronts steroid addiction, the shame and homophobia of his childhood, the sledgehammer of secrets that slowly tore his marriage apart and his love for a gay father of three that would once again challenge the boundaries of trust. Join us for a conversation with author William Dameron in this installment of “Leonard Lopate at Large” on WBAI.