Why should you not put your partner on a pedestal in a relationship? 1. Do you suddenly find yourself becoming the object of someone’s unwanted affection? (Alternatively, are you someone who uses pedestalization as a substitute for authentic love?) Why do so many people put their partner on a pedestal in the beginning of a relationship only to mistreat them later? 2. How does your definition/vision of what it means to be loved contrast with the reality of how you have been “loved” by others in your relationships? Why do people in relationships with narcissists often put the narcissist on a pedestal? 3. What are three things that drive or influence your capacity and/or ability to love authentically? 4. Does being placed on someone’s pedestal beckon an inevitable fall from their good graces? If so, is it possible to return to your previous height? What’s the unconscious reason why we ‘put people on a pedestal’? 5. How does pedestalization function as a tool of avoidance, codependency and/or FEAGO? 6. How is your attachment style and/or primary love language shaped by the phenomenon of pedestalization? 1. In what ways does pedestalization in relationships hinder genuine emotional connection and intimacy?