Raising kind and respectful kids feels like a lofty goal some days, but it's possible! Today Karen tackles your questions about guiding kids through friendship struggles, addressing disrespectful behavior, and teaching them to stay true to their values. Whether your child struggles with peer pressure, sibling dynamics, or showing respect at home, listen in for Karen’s practical wisdom and discipline strategies to shape your child’s heart for the long haul.

Episode Recap:

5:45 - The Soar Conference is a chance to pour into your home, get signed up!

9:00 - My 8 year old is picking up bad behavior from friends, how do I influence her? 

11:30 - Sometimes our kids have to learn the hard way

12:15 - My daughter changes her personality depending on who she’s with- how do I handle it?

17:30 - My husband and I have different approaches to parenting disrespect, what can we do?

23:35 - My child is so stubborn! How do I motivate her?

Scripture for Reflection: Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)
"Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love."

Questions for Discussion:

1. Have you felt like your influence as a mom is fading as your child’s friendships become more important? How do you navigate that shift?
2. How do you encourage your child to stay true to who they are in different social settings?
3. How do you handle discipline in a way that connects with your child’s personality?
4. If you and your spouse differ in your parenting approaches, how have you worked toward unity? What has helped you get on the same page?
5. For moms of green-wired children, what strategies have worked best in motivating them without overwhelming them?

Resources:

• Snag your ticket for the Soar Conference: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/soar-2025
• Our Parenting Together curriculum is FREE in the BOAW Moms app:  [App Store] [Google Play]
• Curious about your child’s personality “color”? Take the free quiz: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/personality-quiz

Today, we’re diving into your questions about parenting kids with melancholy personalities—from helping a 5-year-old navigate self-critical thoughts to encouraging a 10-year-old who always wants to leave the party early, to figuring out how to connect with a tween who keeps butting heads with you. If you’ve ever wondered how to better understand your child’s temperament and parent with both wisdom and grace, you’re in the right place.

Episode Recap:

9:15 - My son can be so negative about himself, how can I coach him? 

12:10 - My melancholy child always wants to leave events early - how would you approach this?

14:45 - We have to learn not to be embarrassed our kids behavior

15:40 - How do I build a better relationship with my blue son? 

17:55 - Practice encouraging your son in his strengths 

19:00 - How can I figure out my child’s personality color?

Scripture for Reflection:

Psalm 139:14 (NIV) – “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Questions for Discussion:

1. How do you see your child’s temperament influencing their everyday experiences?
2. What strengths do you notice in your child that may be hidden beneath their struggles?
3. How can you shift your parenting approach to encourage and support, rather than correct, your child’s personality?
4. What strategies have worked for you in connecting with a child who tends to be more withdrawn or self-critical?
5. Are you praying for the Lord’s guidance so that you can parent your son according to his strengths?

Resources:

• Register for the Soar Conference today: https://subsplash.com/birdsonawire-ga/lb/ev/+j2j9wpq
• Take the Colors Quiz for yourself or your child! https://birdsonawiremoms.com/personality-quiz
• Download our FREE temperaments guide: www.boaw.mom/colors
• Pick up the book A Grown Up’s Guide to Kids’ Wiring https://amzn.to/40QLoaO
  
  

This week on Wire Talk, we welcome Sandra Stanley and her daughter Allie Cooney, co-authors of Meet Me in the Middle, a book designed to help moms and daughters build strong, faith-filled relationships. Sandra and Allie share lessons from their own relationship, and insights from their book—covering everything from communication struggles to the challenges of raising (and being) a teen girl today. They discuss the importance of creating a safe space for daughters, avoiding the “know-it-all” trap as moms, and learning to let go of control while guiding daughters toward wisdom and faith. 

Episode Recap:

6:30 - Sandra Stanley & Allie Cooney join us to talk about their book, Meet Me in the Middle

13:00 - This book was written for girls in 5th through 10th grade and their moms

14:30 - Social media creates so much noise for our daughters today

17:20 - Moms and daughters are facing many of the same pressures, just at different times in our lives and at different levels of maturity. 

20:02 - When our girls feel safe with us, they are more likely to share with us

22:00 - We don’t need to turn everything into a teachable moment, be interested and be humble

24:00 - It is normal for teen girls to pull away in this season

27:35 - How do we help our daughters deal with comparison?

31:10 - What we do in parenting is far more important than what we say

Scripture for Reflection: Philippians 4:4-9 (NIV) 
"Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.”

Questions for Discussion:

1. Sandra and Allie emphasize that moms should aim to be a safe place for their daughters. What are some ways you’ve seen this play out in your own parenting? What challenges make it difficult for you to be that safe space?
2. Allie mentioned that her mom, instead of forcing conversations, placed wise mentors in her life. Does your daughter have  wise women in her world other than you that she could learn from?
3. Have you ever found yourself turning every conversation into a teachable moment? How can you shift toward more natural, two-way conversations with your kids?
4. What are some practical ways you model faith in your daily life, and how do you encourage your daughter to cultivate her own personal faith journey?

Resources:

• Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
• Pick up a copy of Meet Me in the Middle: https://amzn.to/42JaRp1

If you’ve ever felt buried under clutter, you’re not alone. Today Maria and Rebecca of Simple Spaces Ohio join us to share how decluttering has transformed their lives, how you can help your kids understand the value of less, and how a simple morning routine can bring order to the chaos. Whether you're naturally sentimental or just in need of a little guidance, this episode will encourage you to reclaim peace in your home and take back valuable time in your day.

Episode Recap:

2:15 - Clutter affects the way we feel in our homes

4:00 - Young moms are overwhelmed by the chaos in their homes 

6:30 - As your kids get older, you can help them understand they don’t need so much stuff 

9:45 - Some people are naturally more sentimental than others 

11:10 - Having a morning routine with just a few chores can help manage the overwhelm 

13:00 - Decluttering gives you back time in your day

Scripture for Reflection: 1 Corinthians 14:33 
"For God is not a God of disorder but of peace—As in all the congregations of the Lord’s people."

Questions for Discussion:

1. What areas of your home feel the most overwhelming to you right now? What would it look like to create a sense of peace in those spaces?
2. How do you balance keeping sentimental items with the desire to declutter? Are there any items you find hard to let go of?
3. What small changes or routines have you implemented in your daily life that have helped you manage the clutter and find more peace?
4. How can we involve our kids in the decluttering process without overwhelming them, and what are some ways to teach them the value of less stuff?

Resources:

• Register for the SOAR Conference in the BOAW Moms app [App Store] [Google Play]

Navigating relationships with in-laws and grandparents can be tricky, especially when it comes to setting boundaries for the safety and well-being of your kids. Today Karen tackles your questions about managing challenging family dynamics with wisdom, grace, and confidence. Whether you're dealing with safety concerns, feeling smothered, or struggling with differing parenting approaches, this conversation is packed with practical advice to help you protect your family while fostering peace. 

Episode Recap:

2:10 - Check out our new podcast set up on YouTube

4:35  - How do I graciously handle having two sets of hyper-involved grandparents? 

9:15- How do I handle my mother-in-law’s disrespect in a kind but firm way? 

12:45- My mom hovers and overprotects my kids - what should I do? 

16:45 - My in-laws have repeatedly shown they do not respect my boundaries, is there anything I can do? 

Scripture for Reflection: James 1:5 (NIV)
If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.

Questions for Discussion:

1. Have you ever had to set boundaries with family members? What was the outcome, and how did you approach it with kindness and firmness?
2. What role should prayer play in preparing for difficult conversations about boundaries?
3. In what ways can we shift our focus from trying to please everyone to focusing on our responsibilities as moms?
4. What practical steps can you take this week to ensure your nuclear family has time to bond without extended family involvement?

Resources:

• Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
• Grab a copy of Karen’s devotional: Moments with God for Moms
  
  

Description: As we step into a new year, Karen and Emily are here to help you start fresh. In this episode, they discuss practical tips for breaking bad habits, finding contentment in your current season, and making space for your own growth as a mom. If you’re ready to embrace 2025 with renewed purpose and encouragement, you’re in the right place.

Episode Recap:

2:30 - Jumping into the New Year, what are your New Year’s resolutions? 

9:02 - My childrens’ bad moods put me in a bad mood! What can I do about this? 

13:34 - How do I prioritize my spiritual growth with 3 under 3 in my home? 

17:15 - How do I break the habit of having my 5 year old share the bed with us? 

20:50 - I’m struggling with contentment because I want another child but my husband and I both feel like we can’t afford another one, help!

Scripture for Reflection:

2 Corinthians 5:17 (NIV): “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!”

Questions for Discussion:

1. Does your child’s behavior affect your own emotions? Practically speaking, how can you disconnect your emotions from your child’s behavior?
2. What strategies or tools have helped you find time for spiritual growth during a busy season of motherhood?
3. Are there any bad habits you’ve developed when it comes to behavior or situations in your home (like the mom who was bed sharing longer than she wanted to)? What are they and are you ready to work to break them this year?
4. Do you struggle with contentment? Maybe it’s the size of your family or your financial situation…how can you practice contentment while trusting God with your family’s future?

Resources:

• Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
• Grab a copy of Karen’s devotional: Moments with God for Moms

Today Karen and Emily sit down with Elizabeth Pehrson to discuss how moms can parent with purpose by focusing on the long game. In this conversation, Elizabeth shares her no-nonsense approach to raising independent, contributing adults. Whether you’re navigating the pressures of parenting littles or wondering how to prepare your teens for the real world, this episode will leave you inspired and equipped. Don’t miss the rest of the interview over on Patreon! 

Episode Recap:

2:09 - Elizabeth is a long time friend of BOAW Moms and a breakout speaker at Soar 2025

3:36 - She is mom to 8 and founder of The Exchange

8:08 - Most women live a Groundhog Day kind of life, but they don’t have to

10:32 - We can’t love others when we’re not loving ourselves well

12:37 - How did The Exchange come about? 

18:25 - We need to raise adults who are contributors, not consumers

21:00 - We are overprotecting and under preparing our kids for the real world 

24:00 - Young adults today do not know how to problem solve on their own

25:01 - We run a race differently when the length of the race changes - keep the long game in mind!

Scripture for Reflection:

Proverbs 22:6 (ESV) Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old, he will not depart from it."

Questions for Discussion:

1. What areas of parenting do you feel pressured to “do more,” and how might adopting a “do less” mindset bring freedom to your family?
2. How are you currently preparing your children for independence, and what’s one practical step you can take to help them contribute more?
3. Elizabeth emphasizes the importance of rediscovering yourself as a mom. What’s something you used to enjoy that you can reintroduce into your life?
4. How can shifting your focus from short-term achievements to long-term character development change the way you approach parenting?

Resources:

• Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
• Become a Patreon member and listen to the rest of the interview with Elizabeth
• Check out Elizabeth’s organization, The Exchange
• How Do I Get Some Help Around the House? previous WT episode with Elizabeth

As we wrap up Wire Talk for 2024, we’re diving into practical ways to connect with your spouse during busy seasons. From showing appreciation in small ways to navigating family expectations and finding joy in spontaneity, Karen has got wisdom and real-life practical tips for you! Whether you’re balancing the holidays, family dynamics, or simply trying to plan a date night, we hope this conversation inspires you to be intentional in your marriage.

Episode Recap:

5:30 - How can I show my spouse they matter in small, but meaningful ways?

9:00 - How can I accommodate my in-laws' tendency to plan way ahead? 

11:45 - Communicating clearly is gracious, even if it disappoints others

13:30 - I don’t feel lovey-dovey when we’re travelling, but my husband does. How do we navigate this dynamic? 

16:50 - Did your yellow ever rub your blue husband the wrong way? How do I be more spontaneous to accommodate him? 

23:00 - Thank you for all of your support this year! Sign up for SOAR in 2025

Scripture for Reflection:

1 Corinthians 16:14 (NIV) "Do everything in love." 

Questions for Discussion:

1. What are some small but meaningful ways you can show your spouse they are appreciated during busy seasons?
2. How can you find balance between accommodating family expectations and maintaining boundaries for your immediate family?
3. Have you experienced differences in how you and your spouse handle travel or holiday dynamics? How do you navigate those differences?
4. How can you practice flexibility in your plans while still honoring your own needs and personality?
5. What’s one new date-night idea you’d like to try with your spouse?

Resources:

• Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
• Give today to support BOAW Moms and our plans in 2025: boaw.mom/donate

Today Karen and Emily are diving into what it means to love like Jesus, even when it’s difficult. They cover preparing your heart, navigating tricky relationships, and approaching family gatherings with humility. You’ll learn how to manage expectations and hear practical ways we can love others like Christ loves us. Whether you’re juggling in-laws, extended family, or just trying to survive the season, this episode is packed with encouragement and wisdom for the holidays.

Episode Recap:

5:41 - Why is it so challenging to love our extended family like Jesus?

10:26 - How can we shift our mindset and love family when it feels impossible? 

12:33 - You can’t ignore your feelings, but you don’t have to act on your feelings. 

13:30 - What are some practical ways we can prepare our hearts before family gatherings?

16:00 - Pray and ask God to show you what He loves about hard to love people

23:44 - The holidays can bring joy, but they can bring a lot of trigger points as well

Scripture for Reflection: John 13:34-35 (NIV)
"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another."

Questions for Discussion:

1. How can you demonstrate love to family members who may be difficult to connect with during the holidays?
2. What practical steps can you take to prepare your heart to approach family gatherings with humility and grace?
3. How does Jesus’ example of unconditional love challenge the way you interact with extended family or in-laws?
4. What boundaries could you set to help maintain peace and joy during the holiday season, while still showing Christ-like love?

Resources:

• Give today to support BOAW Moms and our plans in 2025: boaw.mom/donate
• Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]

The holidays can often bring stress and guilt for moms as we try to make everything perfect for our families. In this episode, Karen and Emily share how to embrace a simpler, more joyful approach to Christmas. From favorite childhood memories to navigating tight budgets, they remind us that the best moments often come from just being together! We hope this episode inspires you to let go of the pressure, focus on what truly matters (Jesus’ birth!), and create meaningful traditions—whether planned or unplanned.

Episode Recap:

3:08 - Karen and Emily “This or That’ Christmas edition

9:30 - Emily’s favorite Christmas memories growing up in the Stubbs’ home

11:20 - The best memories aren’t always the ones you plan

16:54 - Pick a few things that are important to you and forget the rest

18:20 - Some traditions happen organically and end up being the kids’ favorite

20:10 - How do I keep the holiday spirit alive as my kids grow?

23:00 - Explain the budget to your kids and don’t feel bad about sticking to it

25:32 - Mishaps can lead to new traditions and memories.

27:30 - Give yourself grace and just enjoy this holiday season! 

Scripture for Reflection: Luke 2:10-12 (NIV)
“But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid. I bring you good news that will cause great joy for all the people. Today in the town of David a Savior has been born to you; he is the Messiah, the Lord. This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger.”

Questions for Discussion:

1. What are some of your favorite childhood holiday memories?
2. How can you simplify your holiday plans this year to focus more on connection and less on perfection?
3. What are some inexpensive ways to create lasting memories with your family during the holiday season?
4. How can you be intentional about letting go of comparison during the holidays?
5. What new traditions could you start as your children grow older and your family’s needs change?

Resources:

• Register for SOAR 2025 in the BOAW Moms app today [App Store] [Google Play]
• Give today to support BOAW Moms and our plans in 2025: boaw.mom/donate