What if the thing that feels like home… is actually the thing that hurt you?

In this raw and wildly honest conversation, Gen sits down with Tasch Rogers to talk about the familiar hell: the patterns, relationships and survival strategies we keep returning to simply because our nervous systems learned to recognize them.

Together, they unpack what it means to become the black sheep and cycle breaker in your family, why healing can feel incredibly lonely, how childhood wounds follow us into adult relationships, and why finally experiencing safety can sometimes feel more uncomfortable than chaos.

They also get personal about abusive and narcissistic relationships, people-pleasing, nervous system regulation, boundaries, neurodivergence, relational healing, self-worth and the strange experience of realizing that some of the things you once called personality traits were actually ways you learned to survive.

And perhaps most importantly: healing does not mean becoming so understanding, forgiving and regulated that everybody gets to keep access to you.

Compassion isn’t the same thing as proximity.

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep repeating a pattern you know isn’t good for you, felt like the difficult one for changing your family dynamic, or found yourself learning what safe love actually feels like… this conversation is for you.

• 🎧 In this episode:
• Why familiar doesn’t necessarily mean safe
• Becoming the black sheep and cycle breaker
• How childhood wounds show up in adult relationships
• Nervous system regulation and relational healing
• People-pleasing, boundaries and self-abandonment

💬 Don’t do the messy middle alone. Join the free WithGen WhatsApp community and meet other cycle breakers, overthinkers, neurospicy humans and beautifully complicated people figuring this shit out alongside you. You can find the link by clicking here!

📖 And keep your eyes peeled: Gen’s upcoming book, Keep Going, But Softer, is on its way — 46 lessons for navigating life, grief, ambition, relationships, nervous systems and everything in between without constantly declaring war on yourself.

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What happens when a chapter of your life ends, and part of your identity seems to disappear with it?

Maybe it was a breakup. A friendship ending. A job you’d built your life around. Burnout. Caregiving. Or simply realizing that the version of you who built your old life isn’t quite who you are anymore.

In this solo episode, Gen explores the psychology of why we can genuinely feel like we’ve “lost ourselves” after major life changes and, more importantly, what to actually do about it.

We’ll work through 5 psychology-backed steps to help you get reacquainted with yourself, including how to name what you really lost, separate what was theirs, ours and mine, collect evidence of who you are now, experiment with possible versions of yourself, and decide what you want to remember, keep, release and discover.

Because maybe you don’t need to reinvent yourself. Maybe you need to get curious about the person who’s already there.

Grab a pen for this one. You’ll need it. 🩷

🎧 In this episode: self-concept, identity after loss, self-expansion, possible selves, journaling, relationships, career changes, grief, caregiving and finding your way back to yourself.

Want somewhere to figure out the messy life stuff alongside other humans? Find Gen at the WithGen website or DM her on Instagram to join the free WithGen WhatsApp community.

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Heartbreak changes us, but not always in the way we expect.

In this episode, I sit down with breakup coach Sarah Curnoles, host of Breakup Pep Talks, for a conversation that starts with our own breakup stories and quickly turns into something much bigger.

We explore what heartbreak really forces you to face: childhood wounds, shame, people-pleasing, friendship breakups, rebuilding your identity, and why sometimes the most painful moments become the biggest turning points in our lives.

Together, we talk about:

• Why the pain isn’t actually the problem
• The difference between making a mistake and believing you are one

• Why friendship breakups can hurt just as much as romantic ones
• The role therapy played in both of our healing journeys
• Learning to repair your relationship with yourself

Whether you’re healing from a breakup, grieving a friendship, navigating a career change, or simply trying to understand yourself a little better, this conversation is an invitation to slow down, reflect, and remember that healing isn’t about becoming someone else. It’s about coming home to yourself.

If this episode resonated with you, I’d love to invite you into the free WithGen WhatsApp Community, a space for ambitious humans who want to feel more like themselves and have conversations that go deeper than surface level.

💛 DM me HOME on Instagram @withgenevieve, and I’ll send you the invite.

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What if being “the understanding one” is actually helping a dysfunctional system stay dysfunctional?

In this solo episode, Gen gets into the uncomfortable side of empathy, boundaries and leadership — not just at work, but inside families, relationships, friendships and communities too.

We talk about why culture is shaped by what we tolerate, how reliable people become responsible for everyone else, why “that’s just how they are” is such a dangerous sentence, and how empathy can quietly turn into enabling when accountability disappears.

Plus: why therapy language isn’t a substitute for conflict skills, how systems train behaviour, and five questions to help you audit the culture you’re participating in.

Soft leadership doesn’t mean spineless leadership. Sometimes compassion sounds like: “I understand. And this still needs to change.”

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Website: www.withgenevieve.com

Leadership looks glamorous, until it isn’t.

In this episode, I sit down with leadership consultant and multipreneur ⁠Felix Schorre⁠ to unpack what leadership actually means in 2026.

We talk about:

• Why ego-driven leadership is holding us back

• The moment leadership stops being status and becomes responsibility

• Presence as the most underrated leadership skill

• Taking hard decisions without becoming harsh

• Female energy, emotional intelligence & balance in power

• Why real change starts in your microcosm, and not at Davos

This is a grounded, honest conversation about self-leadership, power, and responsibility in a world that feels increasingly loud and reactive.

Because leadership starts with you, while it’s not about you.

⁠🔗 Connect with Felix Schorre⁠

Leadership consulting & conscious leadership development

Instagram & ⁠LinkedIn⁠: just search Felix Schorre

🔗 Connect with me

Find me everywhere at @withgenevieve

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✨ Curious about the creative side of what I build?

Keep an eye out on www.withgenevieve.com - you'll find my 12-week program there and my new book "Keep Going, But Softer". Have a great one!

If this episode resonates, share it with a leader who needs to hear it.

What if your independence, perfectionism, people-pleasing or constant need to stay busy aren’t actually personality traits?

In this solo episode, I explore the survival strategies we build as children, and how easily we mistake them for who we are. I talk about becoming the responsible one, learning to earn love through caretaking, and why the patterns that once kept us safe can become incredibly heavy in adulthood.

We dive into attachment, confirmation bias, neuroplasticity, co-regulation and collective healing... but in normal human language, promise. Because healing isn’t about shaming the person you became. It’s about understanding what that version of you was trying to protect.

Maybe you’re not broken, difficult or too much. Maybe you simply became very good at surviving a situation that no longer exists.

And maybe healing is gently telling those old protective parts:

"You can rest now. I've got it from here."

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You didn’t choose your childhood. But you can choose what happens next.

In this deeply honest conversation, I sit down with systemic business coach Jonathan Bouter to explore how the patterns we learned as children quietly shape our relationships, self-worth, business, and everyday lives. From family systems and generational trauma to nervous system regulation, reparenting, and the inner child, we unpack why so many of us keep repeating the same cycles. And, more importantly, how to break them.

We share our own stories of healing, the survival mechanisms that once protected us, and the practical shifts that helped us build healthier relationships with ourselves and the people around us. This isn’t about blaming your parents or chasing perfection. It’s about understanding where your patterns came from, taking responsibility for your healing, and learning that you are worthy of love, even on the days you don’t believe it yourself.

If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking “Why do I keep doing this?” or “Why does this trigger me so much?”, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why survival patterns aren’t personality traits

• The role of your inner child in adult relationships
• Self-worth, shame, and learning to receive love

• Breaking unhealthy cycles without blaming yourself
• Practical ways to start healing today

💛 If this conversation resonates with you, I’d love to stay connected. Join my free Instagram Broadcast Channel, where I share extra reflections, mindset insights, behind-the-scenes thoughts, and little reminders that help you keep growing between episodes.

Take one thing from this conversation. Practice it this week. Your future self (and your inner child) will thank you.

Jonathan's website:

https://freedommotivates.nl/

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The Most Productive Thing You Might Do Is Play

Why Your Brain Needs Play More Than Another Productivity Hack

When was the last time you did something for absolutely no reason? Not because it would make you money. Not because it would become content. Not because you’d get better at it. Just because you wanted to.

Somewhere between childhood and adulthood, many of us stopped playing. We turned hobbies into side hustles, rest into optimization, and joy into something that had to justify itself.

In this solo episode, I explore what neuroscience says about play, why it matters for emotional health, creativity and relationships, and what researchers like Jaak Panksepp discovered about the role of play in the brain. We also talk about ADHD, nervous systems, perfectionism, and why doing something “unproductive” might actually make you feel more alive.

This isn’t an episode about becoming more productive. It’s about remembering that you’re a human being before you’re a productive one.

If you’ve been feeling exhausted, disconnected from yourself, or like everything in your life needs a purpose, I hope this conversation gives you permission to play again.

💜 If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who might need permission to stop optimizing every minute of their life.

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What if the answer to feeling behind isn’t working harder, but doing less of what never mattered in the first place?

In this episode, I’m joined by Anne Rajoo for an honest conversation about productivity, burnout and the pressure to keep proving that we are doing enough.

Anne shares how motherhood, entrepreneurship and the sudden loss of her mother forced her to reconsider the way she was living.

Because what is the point of saving your entire life for retirement when tomorrow was never promised?

We talk about peaceful productivity, the belief that rest must be earned and why procrastination is not always a discipline problem. Sometimes your brain is not avoiding the work because you are lazy. Sometimes it simply has nothing left to give.

We also explore:

• Why working harder does not always createbetter results
• Why rest and recovery are part of productivity
• The importance of play, creativity and doing things without monetising them
• Planning around your energy instead of constantly overriding it
• Working in seasons rather than demanding endless consistency
• Creating space for yourself while caring for children, family or a business
• Why you may need to plan your rest before you feel entitled to take it

This conversation was recorded two days after my grandfather passed away. He was one of my closest friends, and I cared for him for several years. In the final years of his life, sitting beside him taught me something I am still learning now: being present is not time wasted.

You do not have to do everything. And you do not have to completely exhaust yourself before you are allowed to stop.

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We spend so much of our lives chasing more time.

One more free evening. One more weekend. One more holiday. We tell ourselves that then we’ll finally feel calmer, more present, more like ourselves.

But what if the problem isn’t time?

In this solo episode, I explore why so many of us are overwhelmed even when our calendars aren’t full, how our nervous systems measure load instead of hours, and why creating space is about so much more than productivity or time management.

We’ll talk about the psychology behind silence, why being busy can become part of our identity, and the surprising reason your best ideas often show up when you stop trying so hard.

If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, constantly “on,” or like you’re running without remembering why, this conversation is for you.

Because maybe what you’re looking for isn’t more time. Maybe it’s space.

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