In this episode of Vassalage: Truth, Lies, and Power, the words “I say it with love” take on a darker meaning. My father’s letter to my mother shows how abusers disguise control as concern — twisting affection into manipulation and calling it love. My mother’s response reveals exhaustion, self-awareness, and the first signs of emotional freedom. Together, their letters show how love can be used to confuse, silence, and bind. I also explore the story of Mel B, whose public battle with gaslighting and coercive control echoes the same pattern behind closed doors. This episode asks one haunting question: when love becomes a weapon, how do you recognize it? 

⚠️ Content Note: This episode discusses sensitive themes, including abuse, suicide, and family conflict, and may not be suitable for all listeners. If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 in the U.S. for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.

🎵 Music Credit: Moonlight Sonata, performed by Paul Pitman