In “Wives and Husbands,” John Mulligan turns to Colossians 3:18–19 to examine God’s design for marriage within the broader call for peace in relationships. Framed by Paul’s command to let “the peace of Christ rule,” the lesson emphasizes that marriage is not exempt from spiritual discipline. In fact, because it is one of the closest relationships, it often requires the most intentional effort. God’s purpose in marriage is not dominance, silence, or convenience, but a Christ-centered relationship that reflects reconciliation, mutual responsibility, and peace.

Paul’s instruction to wives focuses on voluntary submission “as fitting in the Lord.” This submission is not forced, not blind, and not unconditional—it never includes sin, abuse, or silence in the face of wrongdoing. Instead, it describes a willing posture that supports responsible leadership, much like allowing one qualified driver to guide a shared journey. Wives are fully expected to speak, give counsel, and raise concerns with wisdom and love, while choosing unity over constant control. Submission, as Scripture presents it, functions within faith, trust, and accountability—not fear or coercion.

Husbands are given an equally demanding charge: to love their wives sacrificially and never be harsh. This love is not sentimental or self-serving, but patterned after Christ’s love for the church—placing another’s good above personal preference. A husband’s leadership is expressed through care, restraint, protection, and thoughtful decision-making, not intimidation or force. When both spouses live under Christ’s lordship—one offering willing support, the other exercising self-giving love—the peace of Christ can truly rule, even through disagreement, frustration, and growth over time.