Underneath the content of our fights there is a narrative. A story we tell ourselves; about ourselves, about our partner and about our relationship. When we are in a negative cycle, those stories tend to not only be the most negative view you can hold, but also tend to be about identity and security. "I am bad." "My partner is bad." "Our relationship is bad." A healthy goal to work toward in building a secure relationship is to be able to understand and then articulate what those stories are and instead of holding those view alone in our thoughts, sharing those views with or partner so they can help us build a healthy and more honest narrative. Listen to Chad and Angela share how these negative views keep us stuck and also how to start having conversations about those places. 

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