What is this idea that we have to be small or play small otherwise we'd chase men/suitors away? What is this idea that one has to choose between a great career and a successful marriage? Why do I have to be a damsel in distress to secure a man? Why do I have to cower for you to have a boost of confidence? So many questions yet, all I can say is; Dear women, you can certainly have it all! It's only a matter of whether you want it or not and how much you want it.