This was some Advice from our pastor at the beginning of my healing journey. There were other people involved that also needed healing, but one of the main things I have had to learn and accept is: I cant control anyone else. I can make anyone get the help, do the work, partner with God to transform their heart.  But this is the key to it all: That doesnt matter. You need to do the work for your own freedom and peace, and when you change...things change.