Sticky Learning Lunches #9: Use Our G.R.O.W Model to Coach Your People with 'Reality'

Learn How to Coach Your People with the 4 Steps of the G.R.O.W. Model - Part #2: Reality Coach your people with Reality - Step 2. Use your time working from home to become the very best version of yourself. This is a Virtual Classroom of 20-minutes, followed by a 10-minute Q&A.

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Nathan Simmonds:

Good afternoon everybody, and welcome to today's session. We're just gonna give it another 30 seconds. While people are turning up, I can see the numbers are increasing. I wanna say thank you to all of you people for turning up early. Hugely appreciated. I massively value, massively value. Your attention and your desire to engage and your time to be here and commit to this, it means massive amounts to myself and the MBM team.

Nathan Simmonds:

And it's, you know, it's a massive thank you from me and a massive thank you from your future self for anything that you're gonna pick up in this that's gonna help you to develop yourself and move yourself forward in your business, your careers, and with your teams as well. So, thank you from us and thank you from your future self as well. Let's just give it 30 seconds and wait for a couple more people to arrive.

Nathan Simmonds:

Afternoon. Andy, please feel free if you want to make comments, you want to ask questions or question boxes there, we'll be picking up a bit of q and a at the end of it. But also, if anything comes up that you, you wish to kind of pick up with me, you wish to query, please do. Um, this is what it's here for. I'm here to help you get as much clarity, especially around the grow coaching model this week, which is what we're gonna be focusing on.

Nathan Simmonds:

So let's start everyone, make sure you've got drinks. Gonna set you guys up for success. First of all, please make sure you've got drinks available and you've got a pen and paper, nice clean sheet. So setting you up for success for this session. At the top of that sheet, on one side, I want you to write keepers and what does keepers mean?

The GROW model is made up of goal, reality, options and will

 

Nathan Simmonds:

Keepers are the things that you want to remember from this session. So we've got 20 minutes roughly of content, a little bit of q and a and kind of calibration stuff at the end there. Keepers aiming for more than three things that I say or share, or questions that people ask and I answer. Anything that helps to stimulate a new thought for you, something that's a, a new moment when those light bulb moments, those aha uh, points, that penny hitting the floor. Now, that's the, it's the loudest noise in the room.

Nathan Simmonds:

The penny dropping and hitting the floor. So keepers are the things that you want to keep hold of. So when you reread it, it stimulates a new thought and it keeps a learning moving forward. So let's get into this because this is the home of sticky learning, making business matter. We make learning stick and these are the sticky learning launches. My name is Nathan Simmons and I'm a senior leadership coach and trainer with MBM.

Nathan Simmonds:

We are the leadership development and soft skills provider to the grocery and manufacturing industry. Let's get this show started. What are we covering today? We are covering the R from the grow coaching model. We all know what R stands book is right now. It's blazed across your screens. Let's bring it off there. So R stands for

Nathan Simmonds:

Reality. First question, open question for all of you here. What does reality mean for you? How do you define this to your clients? How do you define this to your delegates and your, the people in your teams? How do you define reality? What is it? Let's see what you've gotta say on this subject.

Nathan Simmonds:

Truth as I understand and see it. Absolutely. What else does reality mean for us? Reflect on client's current situation. Help them become aware of their reality. Absolutely. So we're getting them to reflect on the current situation they're in the current situation, their perception, absolutely. Key thing with perception is, as some of you may know, and let me clarify this with you, perception is reality. Okay? It's also a lie. What do I mean by this?

Nathan Simmonds:

It's because the way that someone sees something is their version of reality. Whether it is true or not, to the wider hole is neither here nor there according to them. It's their reality. So never argue with someone's perception. Give you a really tangible, um, understanding of this. Imagine someone that is colorblind and that maybe they don't see green, or maybe they don't see red the way that we do.

Nathan Simmonds:

Maybe they don't see it at all. Maybe they see oranges or the same color across the board. You can argue with them until you are blue in the face that roses are red and grass is green and this, that and the other. But they'll never be able to see it because that's not their reality. Super great point there. Thank you very much for that, Jane. Appreciate it. So the reality is where someone is right now is everything that has preceded this moment.

Nathan Simmonds:

Everything they have learned, everything they have experienced, how they see the world, where they're planning or how they interact with things, the lessons that they've learned along the way. This is the reality, the here and now and the current. There are some challenges though, with the way that we've learned to deal with reality and we're gonna be covering those today. So we've got three points. The first one here is about big goals. And we're gonna come back into that.

Nathan Simmonds:

So we make sure we're focusing in the right way into the reality. How we can then be overwhelmed by the journey that's in front of us. And then how we learn to maximize what's come before us until this point, what we've done and the journey that we've taken. So we need to use these three points to, to help keep the brain engaged in the right way. The first thing, big goals, number one,

Nathan Simmonds:

The problem with big goals are they're big and they're meant to be. So as I said yesterday, and if you haven't seen the video from yesterday, please after this, go and watch that. It's on YouTube, it's available. Now we'll provide links for that is they're meant to be big. They're meant to be stimulating, they're meant to be challenging, they're meant to be engaging. 'cause it needs to be those three things so that the goal becomes magnetic, it physically pulls you forward.

Nathan Simmonds:

It needs to magnetize you in order to create that because it becomes a necessity, not just a maybe. The challenge that we have with the big goal though, is it can become too overwhelming. So when we're looking at the big goal, what we want to do is we want to break it down into the bite-sized chunks. Again, talking about how do you eat an elephant?

Nathan Simmonds:

You don't do it in one mouthful. You chop it up into smaller bite-sized chunks that you can learn to deal with it. Some of those will be your smaller goals that then slot into that bigger one. So you will have your big overarching goal with potentially three to four pillars in it, which are then the goals and the um, the way points up the mountain side, that's gonna help you to get there. So you can break it down into tangible points and then also work it out into objectives.

Nathan Simmonds:

This then starts to feed into tomorrow's session. So we break it down in chunks. What would make this goal easier to manage right now? How can we break this down into its lowest denominators to help move this forward? What goals could you be achieving right now that would line you up for that? Throwing some questions out here that you can write down and using your coaching sessions or for yourselves, what else?

Nathan Simmonds:

How could you break this goal down into smaller steps that are gonna help you to move forward? How can we feed into that? How does the three month goal feed into a 12 month goal? What does that look like? So we start to break this big goal down into smaller elements that we can work on. The second thing that we want to be looking at is our mindset around this.

Nathan Simmonds:

How do we often look at our goals? Something I talk a lot about with people is when we are looking at the growth mindset, when we are looking at how we work inside our comfort zones, often when we set goals, especially when we set goals that are realistic and inside that comfort zone, what we expect to happen is this is us moving towards our goal. We think the journey croda green is not working at all.

Nathan Simmonds:

We think the journey is gonna look like this. A nice straight road, nice and simple. Here's my goal, here's me and this is the journey. And then what happens? What normally happens when we think everything's gonna be plain sailing open? Question to you, what normally happens when we think everything's gonna be plain sailing as we're moving towards our goal,

Nathan Simmonds:

Get knocked off track, we slip up as we move forward along the line. And then nor unexpected crosswinds nicely put, I procrastinate Adriana. Yes, right. There's a whole different training I can do on procrastination. By the way. Procrastination is a good thing. It's very natural, it's very normal. We just have to learn how to focus it 'cause it is helpful. We have this idea of the world's gonna be perfect and oh look, I'm just gonna go over there and it's all gonna be normal.

Nathan Simmonds:

But what happens is you're going along here, the smallest hiccup here, and all of a sudden you've got a problem. And then you start to procrastinate. Even though it was the smallest thing, the the slight crosswind or the slight curve to the, the expectation causes a problem because the outside, the,