A stunner and hilarious, she captivated him in an instant. After entertaining many months of flirting over the cafe counter, they finally exchanged numbers to have their first date.

The magic was instant and it lasted a year. So what happened? He picked out a ring and she dropped a bomb: "I can't explain it, I just can't be with you anymore".

Blindsided, powerless, and devastated, Kris painfully watched his girlfriend - and his future - drive away. This breakup cost Kris his job and friendships.

It's been 2 1/2 years and the breakup haunts him on every first date. Listen as we explore how he's coped with his pain and how his behavioral patterns have him stuck without much hope for a happier future.

Towards the end of our chat, Kris has a few aha's. And even though he says he doesn't believe in closure, closure is what invites him to make peace with his past.

photo by Camilla Carvalho