Some highlights from this episode:

Steps To Help When Dealing With Conflict:

• Bring it to God in prayer
  • Pro tip: try speaking aloud a prayer to God when you are alone in the car.  You might appreciate hearing the situation as you speak your prayer - without breaking the 8th Commandment by sharing with others.
• Seek out a trusted wise friend or your pastor to gain clarity and process your issues.  
  • Pro tip: If possible, find a person to talk with who is outside of the situation so they won’t know the people involved.
• Clarify the conflict - understand why you are upset. 
  • Pro tip: Try writing it down, create a timeline.
  • Pro tip: Try to engage in active listening to hear and be heard.
  • Pro tip: Try practicing “When you do ____, I feel ______.”
• Seek to forgive easily and ask for forgiveness readily.
• Be specific about how the conflict can be resolved.

Other notes/resources:

• Volunteers might see conflict as an issue between you and them as a conflict against them and the church. Whereas you might think it is an issue between two friends/colleagues.  Don’t underestimate the heaviness of perceptions!
• https://www.peacemakerministries.org/
• How to Have Difficult Conversations book