Overthinking can look like “being responsible,” but it often feels like your brain running laps with no finish line. I sit down with therapist and life coach, Katherine Flechaus, to get honest about the patterns so many of us live in: excessive worry, people pleasing, perfectionism, and that constant background fear of being “not enough.”

Katherine explains how these habits usually start as protection. A kid who learns to keep the peace, earn approval, or stay hyper-aware in relationships may grow into an adult who can’t stop self-criticizing. We talk through how to spot the difference between healthy self-reflection and a thought loop, then go deeper into what she calls your anxiety origin story. The point isn’t blaming parents, teachers, or coaches. It’s building awareness so you can finally choose a new response.

We also dig into boundaries in a way that feels practical, not trendy. Katherine frames boundaries as respectful behavior and shows how to prepare for the anxiety that hits after you say no. We talk guilt, pushback, family dynamics, and why some relationships change when you stop being the fixer. Along the way we connect the dots to self-trust, restorative experiences, and imposter syndrome fueled by comparison, especially on social media.

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