Kuldrin's Krypt: A BDSM 101 Podcast
S01E29-Everything You Need to Know About Your First BDSM Play Party
September 29, 2017
This is Kuldrin’s Krypt season 1 episode 29
Welcome to Kuldrin’s Krypt I’m your host Master Kuldrin. If you are new to the show this is a place to dispel myths, get rid of stereotypes, and answer your questions about BDSM. You can call in at 865-268-4005 to leave your question or visit the Krypt at kudrinskrypt.com. On this episode of the Krypt we are going to talk about everything you need to know about your first BDSM play party but before we begin I have to welcome my amazing co-host, Funsize.
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Rules to Love by:
Safe, sane, consensual, informed
KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerence, Kindness, Integrity
“Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
Before we begin I, as usual, like to start out with some definitions. What is a play party Funsize?
A play party is a gathering for those in the lifestyle, getting together for various methods of play, be they demonstrations, performances, or just scenes in general. There are two types of play parties actually, regular play parties usually listed on Fetlife, or generally known within community munch circles and groups, and dark parties, which are by invitation only.
How to get invited?
It usually comes down to who you know, especially in the case of dark parties. However simply having friends who are going to a community play party can be a way of finding out about them. You can also check the events page on Fetlife to see if anything is listed for your local community.
Vetting is vital to these types of events. It’s an important practice on both sides, as a hosts, and as those attending. Lots of local communities vet via munches. Others prefer one on one sit down meetings for certain events.
It’s important to be patient and openly communicative if you are not being invited to these events as quickly as you had hoped. Some groups simply have extensive vetting practices, especially for dark parties.
It is also important that you vet those you know are attending and your hosts. You can check who is going to most community parties and vet them on Fetlife, for dark parties, you will more likely know people on a more personal level before you are invited.
What to bring? (In no particular order)
Fetish-wear or other appropriate clothing to change into or out of for the event. Some events have strict dress codes to adhere to.
Towels and washcloths. While some hosts will provide towels and washcloths to sit on and for clean up, it’s often more considerate to simply pack you own. No hosts likes to do that much laundry after a party!
Bottled water. Many will offer refreshments but again to be considerate and mindful of others it’s often better just to already have it on hand. (Plus I cannot tell you how many times I’ve gone to an event and then ended up chugging that bottle of water on my way home later.)
Wipes/ moist towelettes. Even if you’re not participating in a scene you may find yourself sweaty or arouse, and these make life so much easier.
Your own toys/ toy box in a discreet...