How do you talk to yourself?  Are you overly critical?  Can you change your inner voice to be more kind?  Yes, you can!  Join me as we talk about shifting our inner voice from something negative to something positive.

Transcript:

Hi, my name is Tiffany, and welcome to the podcast Working on Amazing.

This is podcast where we talk about the work that it takes to rebuild an amazing life.

And I use that word rebuild because we are designed specifically for women who feel like they're starting over in the middle of their life.

There could be a number of reasons that lead you to that point.

For me, it was divorce, for my sister, it was the death of her husband.

A lot of things can get you to that point where all your plans for the future kind of go up in smoke, your hopes and dreams, the different things you thought were going to happen are no longer part of the equation.

And it really feels like you're starting over.

If that's you, first, let me say, I am so sorry.

But I also want you to know you are not alone.

You're in the right place.

Welcome.

I am so glad that you're here.

So let's get down to today's episode.

Today, we're going to be talking about mental health.

If you'll remember, in the very first episode, I said there were five areas I focused on when I rebuilt my life.

I focused on my spiritual health, I focused on my mental health, I focused on my physical health, I focused on my financial health, and I focused on growth and goals.

So today is going to fall under that umbrella of mental health, and we're going to talk about that.

And the exact thing we're going to talk about today is your inner voice.

And that may sound a little weird, but most of us have an inner dialogue that just runs in the background of our mind.

Okay?

Now, I will say, there is a caveat, I did read an article recently that said 30% of the population do not have that inner dialogue running with themselves.

They don't have that inner voice.

If that's you, then maybe today's episode is not for you.

However, for the other 70% of the people, let's talk about our inner voice.

Let's talk about how we talk to ourselves.

I'm going to give you some examples and see if you recognize any of this stuff.

Okay?

When we're defining what our inner voice is, it's yourself talking to yourself, right?

I mean, that sounds so simplistic, but an example, you're laying in bed at night, you can't sleep, so you're replaying a conversation you've had at some point, either earlier that day or two weeks ago, but you're playing that conversation.

And in your own head, you say, that was so stupid.

Why did you say that?

You're such an idiot.

Have you ever had a situation like that where you've talked to yourself that way?

Or have you ever looked in the mirror and thought, why did I buy this top?

It does not look good on me.

I look like crap.

What was I thinking when I put my makeup on?

This just looks ridiculous.

I don't like the way I look.

Have you ever had negative self-talk?

I think most of the time, we aren't aware of it.

It's so unconscious, just this thing that plays in the background.

But it really matters the way we talk to ourselves.

And we have to start becoming aware.

How do I talk to myself?

What am I saying?

And I think when we're in a better season in our life, where things are going well, we probably aren't as hard on ourselves.

We probably maybe talk to ourselves well.

I'm not sure.

I became aware of how I talked to myself when I was going through a really dark season.

And I realized I had an inne