Your Mind, Your Rules - with Marisa Peer

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When we are born, our driving need is to find connection and avoid rejection. What I see today is the opposite: we are all finding rejection and avoiding connection, and then we blame ourselves for feeling lonely. My guest this week says that is not an accident, and it is not your fault.

Vishen Lakhiani created Mindvalley, wrote The Code of the Extraordinary Mind, and gave us the word “brules”, his name for the rules we never agreed to follow. In this conversation he is blunt about who profits when we compare ourselves, why he has banned social media in his own home, and why the single most profitable thing anyone can do is take human beings and separate them. We also talk about the career path that leads a whole generation into jobs with a fifty per cent depression rate, why he believes no one person should carry all of your love, and what he would delete from the world if he could.


TIMESTAMPS:


0:00 Trailer/Intro
1:00 Meet Vishen Lakhiani: Mindvalley, A-Fest and building AI that connects
1:40 Find connection, avoid rejection: why we now do the opposite
2:00 The problem isn’t AI, it’s who profits from it
2:20 Why he banned social media for his daughter
2:40 Comparison is the thief of joy
3:20 Thigh gaps, bikini bridges and impossible beauty standards
3:40 Wolverine, and the male body image crisis nobody discusses
4:00 What happens to testosterone below 12% body fat
5:00 The rules women were handed about their bodies
6:00 “We’re agreeing to rules we didn’t make”
7:00 Doctor, lawyer, engineer: the cultural rule he grew up with
8:00 The Microsoft internship and the night at Bill Gates’ house
9:00 Getting himself fired on purpose, playing Age of Empires
10:00 Building Mindvalley to $140 million by ignoring the advice
11:50 Brules: the bullshit rules running your life
13:00 Why Russian has two words for blue, and how language shapes reality
14:00 Swimming in rules you cannot see
15:00 Religion, sin, and whether you believe you deserve good things
16:00 The number one rule humanity should throw out
17:00 Vertical growth versus horizontal growth
18:00 Why separating people is the most profitable brainwashing there is
19:00 “We are not separate from the other”
20:00 My rules for language, and the words I will never use
21:00 The missile alert, the plane, and what my daughter said
22:00 The rules behind building Mindvalley
23:00 The myth of the safe, established career
24:00 The profession with a 50% clinical depression rate
25:00 Which rules are real, and which are brules
26:00 Cupcakes, scaling and what AI makes possible now
27:00 Why work that creates connection will always have a market
28:00 Tribal leadership: the five levels explained
30:00 Microsoft as a level four tribe
31:00 When Volvo gave away the seatbelt patent
32:00 See me, acknowledge me, like me, love me
33:00 The bullshit path to love
34:00 Divorced since 2019, and still close friends
35:00 Why no one person should be able to break your heart
36:00 Dating apps, and the loneliness underneath them
37:00 Go and meet a human being, not a date
38:00 Falling in love with yourself first
39:00 “I would rather be alone than with the wrong person”
40:00 How to stay friends with an ex
41:00 Forgiving the younger version of you
43:00 The 17th century law still shaping modern marriage
44:00 Hearts break and repair. That is what they are built to do.
45:00 What forgiveness does to your body
46:00 The rules of education
47:00 Inside Mindvalley University
49:00 Shaolin monks, samurais and 200 classes
51:00 The poster in his daughter’s school in North London
52:00 The rule he would add, and the one he would delete
53:00 QUICKFIRE: his one sentence rules for love and money
54:00 Treat friendship with the diligence you treat money
55:00 One hour a day on your body
56:00 Every stage is a dream dying or one coming to birth
57:00 His books, and where to find him

Connect with Vishen Lakhiani:

Website: https://www.mindvalley.com
Instagram: @vishen

Read The Code of the Extraordinary Mind

Connect with Marisa Peer:

Website: https://www.marisapeer.com
Buy Your Mind Your Rules: https://link.rtt.com/4yve09F
Instagram: @marisapeertherapy

Learn more about Rapid Transformational Therapy and Training: https://link.rtt.com/4AqoasP

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In this episode of Your Mind, Your Rules, Marisa Peer explores why the emptiness you feel cannot be filled with food, wine, shopping, followers, or even another person’s love.

Marisa reveals the seven essential needs every child is born with — and what happens when those needs are not met. As children, we often make decisions like:

“I am not wanted.”

“I am not important.”

“No one is coming.”

“I have to earn love.”

“It will always be this way.”

Decades later, those old childhood decisions can still be running in the subconscious mind. They may show up as overeating, overspending, neediness, chasing validation, or waiting for a partner to fix the pain we have not yet faced.

Watch now to understand the childhood needs underneath emotional emptiness — and how to begin giving your mind a new instruction.

Ready to upgrade your life? Watch my presentation to discover why change has felt so hard, and how Upgrade Your Life helps you transform the patterns beneath it: https://link.rtt.com/ymyr-uyl-261025-d

TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 The emptiness my clients describe

0:40 Why you can't fill an emotional void with stuff

1:30 Where the emptiness actually comes from

1:40 The four core needs every baby has

2:20 Loved, safe, connected, significant: why they're different

2:40 Three more needs you pick up as you grow

3:00 The seven core needs, in full

3:20 Why these needs never go away

3:40 Tagging: "it will always be this way"

4:00 Learned helplessness and learned hopelessness

4:30 Why a child always takes the blame

5:40 "I wasn't loved, so I'll never have love"

6:40 Making it your partner's job, and what happens when they can't

7:40 The fix: meet your own unmet needs

8:40 NEED ONE: to be loved

9:40 Your brain finds evidence for whatever you tell it

10:40 "I love Bridget just the way she is"

11:40 The four reactions people have to saying it out loud

12:40 The love I want wants me

13:40 Why some people raised badly become wonderful parents

14:40 State it, affirm it, embody it

15:40 NEED TWO: to be significant

16:40 Why you must never quantify it

17:40 Mattering is your birthright

18:40 NEED THREE: to be safe

19:40 You could survive alone, but people need people

20:40 Your brain doesn't care if you're slim or rich

21:40 Safe to ask, safe to date, safe to be seen

22:40 TRY THIS: I'm safe to…

23:40 NEED FOUR: to be connected

24:40 Online is a start, but you need real connection

26:40 Joining in feels scary because it's unfamiliar

27:40 If you want connection, you have to connect

28:40 NEED FIVE: to be seen and heard

29:40 NEED SIX: one person who believes in you

30:40 Be that person for someone else

31:40 NEED SEVEN: to be celebrated

32:40 "Look at you. You are…"

33:40 Sing your own song

34:40 Three weeks, a few minutes a day

35:40 You don't need more cake, more wine, more followers

36:40 Nobody should spend Christmas or Valentine's feeling this

37:40 Start today, and send it to someone who needs it

38:40 Responsibility means the ability to respond

Connect with Marisa Peer:

Website: https://www.marisapeer.com

Buy Your Mind Your Rules: https://link.rtt.com/4yve09F

Instagram: @marisapeertherapy

Learn more about Rapid Transformational Therapy and Training: https://link.rtt.com/4AqoasP

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In this solo episode of Your Mind, Your Rules, Marisa traces all three back to one core belief: “I’m not enough.”

Marisa explains why you procrastinate, sabotage yourself the moment things start going well, and why even the most successful people can secretly feel like frauds.

Procrastination isn’t laziness - it’s your brain trying to protect you from the unknown. Self-sabotage isn’t weakness - it’s what happens when you believe you didn’t earn what you have; imposter syndrome is simply the fear of failing, dressed up.

TIMESTAMPS:

0:00 Lie, cheat and steal every day of your life
0:51 Why this episode exists: your comments
1:23 40% of men and 80% of women feel like imposters
1:52 Every baby is born certain they're enough
2:48 Then you get compared: siblings, grades, streams
3:10 Social media and the daily exposure to fake perfection
3:32 The "I'm not enough" tree, and its three branches
3:56 Why you procrastinate: your brain only asks one question
4:37 The real fear isn't public speaking
5:00 "I'd rather be in the coffin than give that eulogy"
5:38 The classroom experiment: five-year-olds, ten-year-olds, adults
6:43 You're not procrastinating. You're avoiding pain.
7:06 Why rushing it gives you the excuse you wanted
7:51 Your brain never forgets what hurt you
8:34 The Broadway dancer who gained ten pounds on purpose
9:17 The unspeakable truth underneath
9:59 "I'm safe to write this. I'm safe to be successful."
10:49 Her first book deal, and the sudden urge to tidy the sock drawer
11:14 Lie to your brain, cheat fear, steal back confidence
11:37 After ten days, the lie was true
12:00 Your brain doesn't require perfection. It requires direction.
12:22 "I've chosen this" and why it changes everything
13:10 The gym test: what you say while you train
13:39 Facing the fear: money, success, standing out
14:33 Nobody pats you on the back when you work from home
14:55 What would an amazing boss say to you?
15:23 "This book is amazing." It sounded arrogant. It worked.
16:34 Safe to show the world what you can do
17:00 Fears are not facts
17:48 Self-sabotage: the talent for self-destruction
18:15 Why lottery winners end up broke
19:00 We need to feel we earned it
19:30 "I'm worth it. I deserve it."
19:55 TRY THIS: the worthiness exercise
21:40 The four reactions people have to saying it
21:58 Why words have a frequency
22:55 If it feels wrong, it's only unfamiliar
23:21 Attachment, feral cats, and rejecting love
23:50 The three ways people change
24:31 "You will break self-sabotage forever"
24:55 Put it on your mirror, your bracelet, your password
25:46 Is it really lonely at the top?
26:31 "What if I said I'm an astronaut?" Feelings versus facts.
26:58 Forgetful, or phenomenal memory? Your brain finds proof.
28:11 Why "I'm worthy of love" always finds evidence
29:03 Nobody is sprinkled with fairy dust
29:24 A no isn't a denial, it's a delay
29:51 Imposter syndrome: the call from a famous actor
30:27 They both felt like frauds. They both did it anyway.
31:41 What if you succeed?
32:13 Every one of these beliefs was learned
32:44 The baby you buried, and how to resurrect it
33:07 You're not damaged. You have damaging beliefs.
33:54 THE QUESTION: what would you have to believe to be free of it?
34:28 And what would you have to believe to keep it?
34:55 The girl least likely to, from a village in Cambridge
35:16 She gave her first book advance back
36:18 Feel the fear and do it anyway
36:47 You were born enough
37:18 TRY THIS: I'm enough, I matter, I'm significant
37:41 The words that follow "I am" follow you for life
38:34 Five negatives, five opposites
39:04 You shaped this brain. You can reshape it.
40:00 Amplify it: massively, absolutely, powerfully
40:28 What do you require, and what does it require of you?
42:15 None of it is hard. It's just unfamiliar.
42:46 Answer that question and you're free

Connect with Marisa Peer:
Website: https://www.marisapeer.com

Buy Your Mind Your Rules: https://link.rtt.com/4yve09F

Instagram: @marisapeertherapy

Learn more about Rapid Transformational Therapy® and Training: https://link.rtt.com/4AqoasP

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Marisa Peer on how the words you use every day program your subconscious, and how changing one word changes what your brain acts on.

Ready to upgrade your life? Watch my presentation to discover why change has felt so hard, and how Upgrade Your Life helps you transform the patterns beneath it: https://link.rtt.com/ymyr-uyl-261004-pod

The hypnotherapist and creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy explains why the books, courses and affirmations haven't worked, and what does. After surgery she swapped pain for discomfort and came off most of her medication, because pain sounds permanent and discomfort sounds temporary. Hard becomes unfamiliar, want becomes require, trying becomes doing, scared becomes excited.
Plus how she's helped women conceive by changing one sentence, why you should never say "my" in front of an illness, and the three-question test for whether a problem can hurt you at all. Includes the full "I am safe" exercise.

TIMESTAMPS:s

0:00 Intro/Trailer
0:52 Words are the thread you string your experience on
1:00 The bracelet exercise: what do your beads say?
1:50 In hospital after being run over: pain becomes discomfort
2:40 Why the words in front of words amplify them
3:15 The listener who came off most of her medication
3:30 Hard becomes unfamiliar
3:55 The BlackBerry, the iPhone, and what familiar really means
5:00 The mirror at AA: making praise familiar
6:00 Why she says mildly unwell, never sick
6:40 Want becomes require
7:20 "I require the love of someone who adores me"
8:20 Why want keeps you in lack
9:00 Trying implies failure
9:40 Why "trying to fall pregnant" gives your brain the wrong picture
10:20 Helping women conceive by changing one sentence
11:40 "Do or do not. There is no try."
12:40 Have to becomes get to
13:20 Writing her first book, and her eighth
14:10 Going through it: why it gives the thing an ending
15:10 Going through cancer, twice
16:00 Your brain only wants to know one thing: am I safe?
17:10 TRY THIS: I am safe to walk through the world as myself
19:20 Clive, the rhino, and why safety is attractive
21:20 Putting "I'm safe" on the bracelet
22:30 Hope, wish and dream become I'm doing it
24:00 Scared becomes excited
25:00 Your brain is an evidence-seeking robot
26:00 Trading the four-wheel drive for a sports car
26:40 "What have I remembered?"
27:30 The client who couldn't get into the MRI scanner
29:00 Thinking his thoughts, then hers, and watching the machine react
29:45 Stop putting "my" in front of things you don't want
30:30 The reader who stopped saying "my Asperger's"
31:45 Never say you're losing weight
33:00 If you only change four words, change these
34:00 Always and never
34:30 Permanent, personal, pervasive: the three-question test
34:50 The four-year-old who won't stay out of your bed
36:10 Ask those three questions and it can't hurt you

Connect with Marisa Peer:

Website: https://www.marisapeer.com

Buy Your Mind Your Rules: https://link.rtt.com/4yve09F

Instagram: @marisapeertherapy

Learn more about Rapid Transformational Therapy® and Training: https://link.rtt.com/4AqoasP

#MarisaPeer #YourMindYourRules #ChangeYourWords #Affirmations #LimitingBeliefs #IAmEnough #Manifestation #RTT #RapidTransformationalTherapy #Hypnotherapy #MindsetShift #SelfWorth #Confidence #Anxiety #Fertility #WeightLoss #PositiveSelfTalk #Subconscious #PersonalDevelopment #WomensHealth

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Davinia Taylor has been sober for nearly twenty years, and she still can't sit still. What if you were never chasing the drink, the goal or the weight, but the feeling of being enough?

This week Marisa Peer sits down with Davinia Taylor, Sunday Times bestselling author, founder of WillPowders and the UK's leading female biohacker, for a raw conversation about addiction, perfectionism and the belief underneath both.

Davinia has written four bestselling books, built a business and raised four boys, and has been sober for close to two decades. She is also, in her own words, still running. She is remarkably honest here about the fact that getting sober removed the alcohol but never touched what was driving it: the sense that she was not enough, and the need for more that came with it.

In this conversation, Davinia describes what withdrawal actually feels like, comparing it to the moment an oncologist told her mother she had six months to live. She explains why alcoholism is a disease of deceit that convinces you daily you don't have it, why she has searched for a trauma she has never found, and how an ADHD diagnosis in adulthood reframed her entire childhood.

Marisa and Davinia also explore why women scan past a hundred good reviews to find the one bad one, why perfection is the fastest route to loneliness, and why so many capable women find it almost impossible to sit still and do nothing.

Along with two live exercises you can do while you watch, and a quickfire round covering the diet rule millions of women still follow, why Davinia won't take HRT, and the lie she told herself about money for twenty years.

Watch to the end for the one shift Marisa says changes everything, and it takes no willpower at all.

0:00 - Intro
4:43 - What she was addicted to
5:42 - The ADHD diagnosis that came after her son's
7:18 - The first drink: dopamine, confidence, connection
8:30 - "I don't like being alone with myself"
8:54 - I have never met an addict who thought they were enough
9:59 - When you're not enough, you need more
12:15 - "I've done so much therapy looking for the trauma. There isn't one."
14:47 - The biggest lie we're told about alcoholism
15:40 - The sinking feeling, and the day the oncologist said six months
17:16 - Why logic never beats emotion
19:05 - People pleasing, and the only thing you can't buy
20:06 - Helen Mirren's greatest regret
24:25 - Why you go looking for the one bad review
24:47 - Why women had to be liked to survive
26:54 - Everything comes down to one question: am I safe?
27:30 - TRY THIS: I am safe to be me
31:41 - Is needing more still coming from lack?
32:01 - You cannot win the race to be perfect
33:12 - "Living in the moment is hard because it lacks excitement"
34:17 - You are a human being, not a human doing
36:00 - Trying implies failure, so choose it instead
41:34 - Perfection is the fast track to loneliness
42:21 - Why the children of perfect parents are the unhappiest
44:08 - Your greatest pain is a lie you've told yourself for years
46:41 - Friendship is built on shared vulnerability
49:51 - Finding rejection, avoiding connection
52:01 - The word in the middle of bored and excited
52:41 - Your brain is a proof seeking robot
53:40 - "I've chosen this, and I've chosen to love it"
54:38 - It's never the thing. It's the meaning you made of it.
57:17 - The sheer joy of missing out
1:00:00 - "If I'm bored, I'm boring" is a lie
1:01:05 - The dishwasher, twenty times a day
1:02:31 - Why a show home doesn't make children happy
1:03:28 - QUICKFIRE begins
1:04:00 - The health rule millions of women follow that is wrong
1:04:12 - "Most women don't need willpower. They need freedom."
1:04:47 - Her rule for hormones, and why she won't take HRT
1:05:36 - The biggest gift you can give your children
1:07:05 - The lie she told herself about money
1:08:51 - TRY THIS: I am enough, and I always have been
1:10:41 - Ageing is a gift not everyone gets
1:12:02 - Happiness is not a destination, it's a choice
1:15:06 - What she'd say to a woman drowning in shame
1:17:23 - Make praise familiar and criticism unfamiliar
1:20:33 - Be the one person who believes in you

Connect with Davinia Taylor:

Website: https://www.willpowders.com
Instagram: @daviniataylor
Podcast: Hack Your Health

Connect with Marisa Peer:

Website: https://www.marisapeer.com
Buy Your Mind Your Rules: https://link.rtt.com/4yve09F
Instagram: @marisapeertherapy

Learn more about Rapid Transformational Therapy® and Training: https://link.rtt.com/4gZCT6S

Download the free audios to subconsciously program your mind for health, wealth, love and abundance: https://link.rtt.com/audio-260415

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She spent six years with her sexuality switched off, because someone once told her it was dangerous.

Most women can list the things they're not allowed to want. Almost none can remember agreeing to the list. This week Marisa Peer sits down with Rachel Pringle, tantra teacher, intimacy coach and author of Wild Open, for an honest conversation about desire, boundaries and safety. Rachel spent her first eight years in and out of hospital, learning her body could not be trusted, then two decades in modelling, learning it was only worth what it measured. What she had been taught to fear most in herself, her power and her wildness, turned out to be the exact thing she had been cutting away in order to belong.

She opens up about the six years she shut her sexuality down, the open marriage that nearly ended her relationship with Johann Urb and then rebuilt it, and why attraction, chemistry and love are three different things. She and Marisa also cover how to keep sex alive in a long partnership, why safety is the precondition for pleasure rather than the enemy of it, why saying no is a skill rather than a personality trait, and what sixty years of diet culture has cost two generations of women.

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro
2:00 - The first new rule: I come first
2:30 - Learning that selfish can be a good thing
3:10 - Selfish, selfless, and the place in the middle
3:40 - Why "I'm so sorry, I wish I could" isn't a boundary
4:20 - Until you can say no, yes has no meaning
4:45 - The open marriage: what actually happened
5:30 - When you both fall in love with someone else
6:10 - The double standard nobody admits to
7:00 - Coming back together after the heartbreak
9:00 - Why people have affairs (it isn't the sex)
9:40 - Intimacy vs erotic sex, and why one kills the other
11:00 - "After newness and novelty comes skill and devotion"
11:40 - Ritual, role play and sacred theatre: devotional relating in practice
12:10 - Don't let closeness block intimacy
13:10 - Tantra isn't serious, it's playful
14:10 - Fantasy: the bridge between eroticism and intimacy
15:40 - The rams, the ewes and what nature is telling us
16:10 - The fertility clients who conceived through fantasy
19:00 - The locked door in your own house
21:00 - Eight years of illness: "I can't trust my body"
22:00 - Meningitis at six months old
23:00 - Soccer, scarred lungs and learning to believe out loud
27:00 - How she became Positive Pringle
29:10 - Your psychology is talking to your biology
30:20 - Asking a photographer at 13 if she should lose weight
31:40 - The taxi cab call: "I'm in a prison"
33:30 - Loving the only body you'll ever have
35:00 - Pattie Boyd: living up to Layla
36:00 - The self-love practice that made her cry
37:30 - Flawsome: flawed people, flawed relationships
39:00 - Realising her sexuality was a power, and abusing it
41:00 - Six years with her sexuality switched off
42:00 - Johann: "Where's your fire? Where's your darkness?"
43:00 - Shadow integration: bringing the destroyer into the light safely
44:00 - How the Wild Woman Experience began
45:00 - Responsibly Wild: seduction vs radiance
47:20 - Culture, religion, personality, body: the four reasons
48:40 - TRY THIS: the soft touch sensual embodiment practice
51:00 - Why women go to the bathroom in pairs
54:00 - What an orgasm does to your biology
55:10 - Sex magic with twenty-seven women
57:40 - Cult documentaries and the feeling of being convinced
58:40 - Strong instead of skinny
1:00:10 - The tantric plumber
1:01:00 - What tantra actually is
1:02:00 - No breathwork, no meditation, no tantra
1:03:40 - Jane Fonda and closing the door
1:05:40 - Why romantasy changed her life
1:07:00 - RTT, hypnosis and how beliefs get rewritten
1:08:50 - TRY THIS: fifteen minutes, music, eyes closed
1:09:40 - Lose your mind, come to your senses
1:10:00 - Where to find Rachel

Transform your confidence, relationships, health, wealth and purpose with Marisa Peer's all-new Upgrade Your Life programme: https://link.rtt.com/ymyr-uyl-260823-pod

Connect with Rachel Pringle:
Website: https://www.devotionmethod.com
Instagram: @positivepringle

Read Wild Open, Rachel's collection of sacred erotica poetry Rachel's women's work is taught through the Devotion Method and the Wild Woman Experience, and her membership community is House of Devotion: https://www.devotionmethod.com/house-of-devotion-membership

Connect with Marisa Peer:
Website: https://www.marisapeer.com
Buy Your Mind Your Rules: https://link.rtt.com/4yve09F
Instagram: @marisapeertherapy

Learn more about Rapid Transformational Therapy® and Training at: https://link.rtt.com/4gZCT6S

Marisa Peer sits down with Jeffrey Allen, energy healer, intuition teacher and Mindvalley trainer, for a conversation about ghosts, death, and what it actually takes to change your own life. Jeffrey explains why he spent years helping ghosts move on before deciding to stop, what he learned when he trained himself to leave his body on purpose, and why he no longer believes death is an ending. He also teaches a simple energy exercise you can try while you watch.

Along the way he and Marisa explore why some people visualise and affirm for years without anything changing, what he sees energetically when a belief finally shifts, and how a single repeated thought can settle into the body. Jeffrey shares how one question in meditation ended his career as a software engineer, and how he married his wife in Japan without either of them speaking the other's language.

Whether you're sceptical, curious, or already deep in this work, this conversation will change how you think about energy, illness, grief, love, and the words you use every day. This video is part of Marisa Peer's series of conversations with world-class experts in personal development, mindset and wellbeing.

Marisa Peer is a world-renowned therapist, global speaker, bestselling author and leading authority on mindset and transformational therapy. With over 40 years' experience working with CEOs, celebrities and Olympic athletes, she is the creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy® (RTT®), has trained almost 20,000 practitioners worldwide, and is founder of the global I Am Enough movement to help people build confidence and self-worth.

Chapters:

1:45 - The woman in Sedona: what a healing session actually looks like
3:15 - Your language is already telling you where the pain is
4:25 - Leaving engineering behind
4:45 - The dream that broke his logical mind
6:20 - "You're here to be of service"
8:00 - "This is it? Is this as good as it gets?"
9:20 - Hisami's purpose: make happy memories
12:15 - Can you see someone's energy in a crowd?
13:00 - "Your energy is like a boombox in the park"
14:20 - The business card he couldn't throw away
15:45 - "If I'd made a list, it wouldn't have been her"
16:50 - The escalator moment
18:50 - The photo she'd seen 15 years before he took it
19:40 - Dating someone you can't speak to
22:50 - "I know you're not saying anything important"
23:35 - The candle in Budapest
24:40 - Working with the dead, and why he stopped
27:30 - The help-people addiction
28:45 - "But what do I tell my friends?"
31:20 - How he disarms the most sceptical person in the room
32:50 - Words carry energy: "this headache is killing me"
34:05 - The word that changes everything: age-appropriate
35:45 - What he knows about the afterlife
37:40 - "Death is the opposite of birth, not of life"
38:25 - Baby beings: interviewing your future child
41:20 - There is no such thing as false hope
42:45 - The physician who lives inside you
45:25 - TRY THIS: feel the energy between your hands
47:50 - Using it when you're tired or overwhelmed
52:10 - The rule he changed about "bad" emotions
53:40 - "I miss you already", sitting with the ache of love
54:55 - How to send healing to someone else
58:40 - Ask your feet to find it
1:02:00 - "Who is going to care for me?"
1:04:35 - Diseased thoughts vs diseased organs
1:07:20 - Give your brain better evidence
1:09:25 - Throwing out every belief he couldn't prove
1:12:15 - "Yummy apple juice": what Marisa told her brain during cancer
1:16:05 - The biggest energy leak nobody notices
1:17:25 - "I don't want to say this, but…"
1:18:45 - Compassion for people who cause pain
1:22:05 - "Follow your dreams", but whose dreams?
1:23:40 - Why visualising isn't manifesting
1:25:55 - The unconscious bad guy
1:29:40 - Where to find Jeffrey

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Connect with Jeffrey Allen: Website: https://iamjeffreyallen.com Instagram: @iamjeffreyallen
YouTube & Facebook: IamJeffreyAllen
Jeffrey's energy training programmes are available through Mindvalley

Connect with Marisa Peer:
Website: https://www.marisapeer.com
Buy Your Mind Your Rules: https://link.rtt.com/4yve09F
Instagram: @marisapeertherapy
Learn more about Rapid Transformational Therapy® and Training at: https://link.rtt.com/4gZCT6S

Is AI making us dumber? Jim Kwik, brain coach and author of Limitless, on digital dementia, cognitive surrender, memory, focus, and how to learn faster in the age of AI, with therapist Marisa Peer.

But first: what if the thing limiting your potential isn't your brain at all, but one sentence someone said about you decades ago?

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At five, a traumatic brain injury left Jim struggling to read. At nine, a teacher called him "the boy with the broken brain" in front of the class. That label became his limit, until a second accident at seventeen forced him to ask a different question. Marisa Peer traces how he went from that classroom to becoming the world's leading brain coach.

Together they explore why a bad memory is a belief rather than a fact, how the brain hunts for evidence to prove whatever you tell it, and why memory, focus, motivation and energy aren't things we have but things we do. They also confront what AI is quietly costing us: as we outsource our thinking, Jim warns, our mental muscles atrophy like an arm left in a cast.

If you've written yourself off as forgetful, unfocused or "just not smart," this episode will show you the brain you were given is not the brain you're stuck with.

What you'll learn:

- Why a childhood label becomes the limit you live inside as an adult.
- How your brain works as a proof-making machine, and how to change what it proves.
- Why there's no good or bad memory, only trained and untrained.
- Labels vs titles: why one limits you and the other expands you.
- What digital dementia is doing to your memory, and why AI accelerates it.
- Why the first five minutes after waking shape your entire day.
- How motivation actually works, and why waiting to feel it guarantees you never start.
- Why nothing is hard, only unfamiliar.

Timestamps:

[0:00] The boy with the "broken" brain
[1:00] "My last name really is Kwik, but I was called Slow"
[3:00] The second accident at 17
[4:30] The Einstein quote on a hospital mug
[6:00] The student who read 30 books in 30 days to save her mother
[7:30] "If knowledge is power, learning is our superpower"
[9:00] Labels vs titles
[11:00] Neuroplasticity, multiple intelligences, and why IQ isn't destiny
[12:00] How your brain searches for evidence to prove you right
[14:00] Learning how to learn: the lead domino
[15:00] Post-traumatic growth
[17:00] The damage of labelling children "different"
[19:30] Comic books, X-Men, and finding a story to live inside
[21:00] Nothing is hard, it's only unfamiliar
[22:00] The nun study: what lifelong learners share
[25:00] Neurobics: why newness keeps the brain young
[25:30] The two moments cognitive decline usually begins
[26:30] The counterclockwise study
[31:00] Sleep inertia and the most programmable window of your day
[33:00] "Mind before media"
[34:00] What screens are doing to children's attention
[36:30] Why motivation is a myth and dopamine must be earned
[37:30] The smallest possible step: one sock, one tooth, one paragraph
[39:30] Marva Collins and the teachers told their pupils were geniuses
[41:00] Be a thermostat, not a thermometer
[43:30] Why schools teach what to learn, never how
[46:00] "A bad memory is a lie"
[47:00] Turning the nouns in your life into verbs
[48:00] Digital dementia: what we lost when we stopped remembering
[49:30] Cognitive surrender: when AI thinks for us
[51:00] 1% a day
[52:30] Why declining reading should concern you
[54:00] The amplifier words that expand your potential
[56:00] Fall in love with the unfamiliar

Marisa Peer is a world-renowned therapist, speaker, bestselling author and creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy® (RTT®). With 40+ years helping CEOs, celebrities, Olympic athletes and millions worldwide, she founded the I Am Enough movement and wrote *Your Mind, Your Rules*.

Transform your confidence, relationships, health, wealth and purpose with Marisa Peer's all-new Upgrade Your Life programme: https://link.rtt.com/ymyr-uyl-260809-pod

Connect with Marisa Peer:
Website: https://marisapeer.com/
Buy Your Mind, Your Rules: https://link.rtt.com/4x5beGy
Instagram: @marisapeertherapy
Rapid Transformational Therapy® and Training: https://link.rtt.com/4gZCT6S

Connect with Jim Kwik:
Website: https://www.jimkwik.com/
YouTube: @JimKwik
Instagram: @jimkwik
Podcast: Kwik Brain
Books: Limitless and Limitless Daily: 366 Keys to Train Your Brain

Rewire your mind. Redefine your success. Upgrade your life. Watch my video: https://link.rtt.com/ymyr-uyl-260725-pod

What if the biggest thing holding you back isn't your talent, your age, or your circumstances - but the story you've been telling yourself about who you are?

In this eye-opening conversation, world-renowned therapist Marisa Peer sits down with former family physician turned coach, Dr. Kim Foster, who walked away from a 20-year medical career to build a life and business on her own terms. Together, they explore how identity shapes every decision we make, why so many people stay trapped in careers and lives that no longer fulfill them, and how changing the words "I am" can transform your future.

Whether you're feeling stuck, questioning your next chapter, or simply want to understand why change feels so difficult, this episode will give you practical tools to redesign your identity—and your life.

What you'll learn:

1. Why your identity (not your willpower) is the biggest predictor of success.
2. How childhood labels shape your confidence, health, and relationships for decades.
3. Why knowing what to do isn't enough and what actually creates lasting change.
4. The hidden connection between chronic stress, mindset, and physical health.
5. How to stop collecting evidence for your old identity and start building a new one.
6. Why it's never too late to reinvent yourself, even after decades in one career.
7. The power of "I am" statements and how your words influence your biology.
8. Why your past should be your foundation, not your cage.

Timestamps:

0:00 – Meet Dr. Kim Foster: Why she walked away from medicine.
2:00 – The surprising reactions from friends, family, and patients.
4:00 – Why coaching succeeded where medicine couldn't.
6:30 – The identity trap that keeps people stuck.
10:00 – How childhood labels become lifelong beliefs.
16:00 – Walking away from a respected career without regret.
19:00 – Coaching vs. medicine: Treating the root cause.
25:00 – How stress silently impacts your physical health.
30:00 – Why your brain looks for proof you're "right."
32:00 – The three-step process to redesign your identity.
35:00 – The life-changing power of "I am" statements.
39:00 – "Let your past be your foundation, not your cage."
43:00 – Reinvention in midlife: Creating your next chapter.
47:00 – The reality of modern healthcare and why prevention matters.
52:00 – Daily habits that protect your physical and mental health.
55:00 – Why your thoughts are always optional.
58:00 – The one message everyone needs to hear about transformation.

Marisa Peer is a world-renowned therapist, global speaker, bestselling author, and creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy® (RTT®). With over 40 years of experience helping CEOs, celebrities, Olympic athletes, and millions worldwide, she is the founder of the global I Am Enough movement and author of Your Mind, Your Rules.

Connect with Marisa Peer:

Website: https://marisapeer.com/
Buy Your Mind, Your Rules: https://link.rtt.com/4p9uRu6
Instagram: @marisapeertherapy
Learn more about Rapid Transformational Therapy® and Training: https://www.rtt.com

Connect with Dr. Kim Foster:

Website: https://drkimfoster.com/
YouTube: @DrKimFoster
Instagram: @drkimfoster
Book: Redesigning You

Rewire your mind. Redefine your success. Upgrade your life. Watch my video: https://link.rtt.com/ymyr-uyl-260719-pod

What happens when you've spent your whole life earning love and you finally realise you were enough all along? In this raw and powerful conversation, Marisa Peer sits down with Scott Thomas, reality TV star, entrepreneur, and founder of the True Self movement, to uncover how losing his father at six, becoming the "golden child," and hiding behind an alter ego led him into addiction, gambling, and years of running from himself.

Together they trace how a six-year-old boy made sense of an absent father by deciding "I'm not enough," how that belief drove him to chase recognition through nightlife, drugs, alcohol, and a Love Island spotlight, and what happened when he finally went sober and met "little Scott" again. Marisa breaks down why children always take ownership of pain, how the word "trying" guarantees failure, and why your brain is a proof-making robot that will prove whatever you tell it, good or bad.

Whether you're trapped in hustle culture, hiding behind a version of yourself that isn't real, or still trying to earn the love you were born deserving, this conversation will show you that your authentic self is your superpower and that safety, not success, is the real thing your brain is searching for.

This video is part of Marisa Peer's series of conversations with world-class experts in personal development, mindset, and wellbeing.

Marisa Peer is a world-renowned therapist, global speaker, bestselling author and leading authority on mindset and transformational therapy. With over 40 years' experience working with CEOs, celebrities and Olympic athletes, she is the creator of Rapid Transformational Therapy® (RTT®), has trained almost 20,000 practitioners worldwide, and is founder of the global I Am Enough movement to help people build confidence and self-worth.

*Chapters:*
[0:00] Introduction
[0:55] Meet Scott Thomas: from addict to self-development advocate
[1:48] When did you start believing you weren't enough?
[4:14] Why his dad disappeared for six whole years
[6:40] Why a child always blames themselves: "My dad doesn't see me because..."
[9:05] Ten years of therapy with the same therapist
[9:36] Going sober and reconnecting with "little Scott"
[14:57] His dad died at his house, processing a lifetime of loss
[17:46] The first kiss rejection that shaped his fear of intimacy
[19:18] Love Island, fame, and finally being seen
[22:11] "All my life I was chasing recognition because I didn't feel enough"
[24:40] How one £1,000 casino win triggered a gambling spiral
[26:20] Why feeling different as a child makes connection terrifying
[29:01] GCSE results day: the dangerous link between grades and love
[30:19] Stop chasing, start choosing, letting go to receive more
[32:09] "Being this Scott is my moon landing"
[35:22] The lost boys: masculinity, gangs, and fatherless sons
[37:00] Scottish Special: the alter ego he hid behind
[39:38] Finding and fathering his inner child
[41:06] "I am not my thoughts," separating from the loop
[43:07] Why the word "trying" guarantees failure
[45:37] Your brain is a proof-making robot, what are you telling it?
[48:07] The rifle team study: why visualisation beats practice
[51:06] Your potential expands as you move toward it
[55:58] The brain only knows "right now," how to use that
[59:26] Why 80% beats perfection every time
[1:02:08] Balance: the tattoo, the middle lane, and making "being" sexy
[1:03:07] "I'm enough and I'm safe," the only belief you need
[1:05:16] Be an arrow, not a bow: you can never go back
[1:06:15] Why you should never call growth "work"

Connect with Scott Thomas:
Instagram: @scottthomasofficial

*Connect with Marisa Peer:*
Website: https://www.marisapeer.com
Buy Your Mind Your Rules: https://smarturl.it/u3hAnQ
Instagram: @marisapeertherapy
Learn more about Rapid Transformational Therapy® and Training at: https://www.rtt.com

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