Medical trauma isn’t always a procedure. Sometimes it’s disbelief.
In this episode, we talk about what happens when women are cast as unreliable narrators of their own bodies—and how to reclaim the story. From birth injury dismissal to neurodivergent ableism, this is about power, authorship, and refusing to let someone else define your pain.
You are not a faulty narrator.

Medical trauma isn’t always a procedure. Sometimes it’s disbelief. In this episode, we talk about what happens when women are cast as unreliable narrators of their own bodies—and how to reclaim the story. From birth injury dismissal to neurodivergent ableism, this is about power, authorship, and refusing to let someone else define your pain. You are not a faulty narrator.

Your Pain Is Not Up for Debate

I’m Dr. Erika Miley (Dr. E) — licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain full of research and a mouth that doesn’t know when to stop.
This show is for the curious, the kinky, the overstimulated, and the over-it. We’ll talk about sex without purity politics, trauma without turning it into your whole personality, and desire without apology.
Because here’s the thing: so many of us — especially women — are living in bodies that were never taught to rest, feel, or want. We’re raising kids, running businesses, surviving late-stage capitalism, and trying to remember what turns us on besides iced coffee and fictional fae warriors.
So we’re going to talk about it all — Why Romantasy is the cultural Prozac we didn’t know we needed. Why erotica can feel like therapy when porn just… doesn’t. What porn women actually watch. And what we know now about perimenopause, hormones, and pleasure that our mothers were never told.
This isn’t therapy. This isn’t porn. This is The Soft Science Show.
And yes — you can stim while you listen. I do.

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I’m Dr. Erika Miley (Dr. E) — licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain full of research and a mouth that doesn’t know when to stop. This show is for the curious, the kinky, the overstimulated, and the over-it.We’ll talk about sex without purity politics, trauma without turning it into your whole personality, and desire without apology. Because here’s the thing: so many of us — especially women — are living in bodies that were never taught to rest, feel, or want.We’re raising kids, running businesses, surviving late-stage capitalism, and trying to remember what turns us on besides iced coffee and fictional fae warriors. So we’re going to talk about it all —Why Romantasy is the cultural Prozac we didn’t know we needed.Why erotica can feel like therapy when porn just… doesn’t.What porn women actually watch.And what we know now about perimenopause, hormones, and pleasure that our mothers were never told. This isn’t therapy.This isn’t porn.This is The Soft Science Show. And yes — you can stim while you listen.I do.

I’m Dr. Erika Miley (Dr. E) — licensed therapist, clinical sexologist, professor, and your favorite neurodivergent bisexual MILF with a brain full of research and a mouth that doesn’t know when to stop.
This show is for the curious, the kinky, the overstimulated, and the over-it. We’ll talk about sex without purity politics, trauma without turning it into your whole personality, and desire without apology.
Because here’s the thing: so many of us — especially women — are living in bodies that were never taught to rest, feel, or want. We’re raising kids, running businesses, surviving late-stage capitalism, and trying to remember what turns us on besides iced coffee and fictional fae warriors.
So we’re going to talk about it all — Why Romantasy is the cultural Prozac we didn’t know we needed. Why erotica can feel like therapy when porn just… doesn’t. What porn women actually watch. And what we know now about perimenopause, hormones, and pleasure that our mothers were never told.
This isn’t therapy. This isn’t porn. This is The Soft Science Show.
And yes — you can stim while you listen. I do.

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