You do the work, you feel the shift and you walk back into your life, but something’s off. The people who were supposed to want the best for you are suddenly making life harder for you. They’re not always doing it on purpose. Sometimes it’s purely subconscious, but the effect is the same. You start to feel yourself being drawn back down into who you were

This episode is about something that’s talked about the least in the personal development world. The environment you return to after doing inner work isn’t neutral. It has its own dynamics. Relationships are built around patterns, even unhealthy ones, and when you shift, the system pushes back.

JJ and Alexia get into why this happens, what it looks like, how the energetics of relationships change when one person does the inner work and the other doesn’t, and why your biggest obstacle to lasting change might not be internal at all.

If you’ve ever felt yourself shrinking back into an older version of yourself around certain people, this one’s for you.

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