Time to sit down and have the talk about the elephant in the room. Is this a problem for you? Is your spouse helping you around the house? Helping with the kids? Looking for a job? Or doing nothing and putting on weight, using substances? Are they being a victim and putting you down? Only you know where you are at? Have the talk and offer help. Put a date on when a job is expected. See if any action is taking place and give it some time . If no action is happening then perhaps it’s time that you took action? Do you need to get out?