In Part 2, Jessica and David J. Weeks (@djweeks_) move from the facts of David’s childhood into the adult fallout—and the work of repair. David traces how early chaos trained his body to confuse intensity with intimacy, how disorganized attachment and the survival role of “the chameleon” kept him safe then but costly now, and how narcissistic partners can exploit abandonment wounds through tactics like love-bombing, power imbalance, and data mining (“gaining information to use later against you”). He also reframes trafficking: it isn’t only the cinematic scenario—grooming and relational exploitation of minors belong in that definition, too. Together they highlight practical next steps: naming the pattern, regulating first, moving logistics to one written lane, and building a steady support map so safer connection becomes possible.

We cover:

• Why perceived abandonment can trigger the same alarm as the real thing
• The difference between intensity and intimacy (and how sex can cement a trauma bond)
• Narcissistic tactics in adult relationships: love-bombing → power imbalance → data mining → leverage
• Reframing trafficking for minors: grooming and relational exploitation behind closed doors
• Repair in practice: body-first resets, written-only logistics, simple boundaries you can repeat, community care

About David:
Trauma & Recovery Coach, complex-trauma survivor, and author of the forthcoming memoir Surviving Childhood. He coaches survivors to reclaim safety, language, boundaries, and voice. IG: @djweeks_.

Resources (U.S.): 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) • RAINN 800-656-HOPE • National DV Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (text START to 88788)

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