What if the version of you that succeeds at work… is the exact version of you that's hurting your relationships at home?

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. D. Ivan Young to unpack something I think a lot of high-performing men struggle with:

You can dominate in your career… But still feel disconnected in your marriage, your family, and your life.

We talk about what it really means to "leave work at the door," why so many men stay stuck in survival mode without realizing it, and how our upbringing quietly shapes how we show up decades later.

We also go deep into parenting, emotional presence, generational blind spots, and the small daily behaviors that either build connection, or slowly break it down.

If you've ever felt like you're doing everything right… But something still feels off at home—this conversation will challenge you in the best way.

👤 About Dr. D. Ivan Young

Dr. D. Ivan Young is one of the most credentialed coaches in the world—an ICF Master Certified Coach, behavioral neuroscience expert, TEDx speaker, and Professional Fellow at the Institute of Coaching, a Harvard Medical School affiliate.

Known as the "Reality Check Doctor," he has spent over a decade working with high-net-worth individuals, Fortune 100 executives, professional athletes, and entrepreneurs—helping them break toxic cycles, reclaim their identity, and lead with emotional intelligence.

He is the author of multiple bestselling books, including Leading from the Heart, which introduces his Generational Blind Spots framework—exploring how inherited beliefs and early-life experiences shape leadership, relationships, and personal growth.

Key Takeaways

• Why many high-performing men bring their "performative self" home—and how that damages relationships
• The concept of Generational Blind Spots—and how patterns from childhood (ages 2–7) shape your default behaviors as an adult
• Why being physically present at home doesn't mean you're emotionally present in your relationships
• How stress activates the brain's "survival mode"—and shuts down your ability to think, communicate, and connect effectively
• The importance of self-empathy and self-awareness in regulating emotions and avoiding reactive behavior
• Why unspoken stress turns into negative behavior—and how open communication changes relationships
• How men often act out what they won't talk about—especially in marriage and family life
• Why presence, attention, and modeling behavior are the most important things a father can give his children
• The danger of raising kids on screens—and how it replaces real connection with passive stimulation
• Why leadership at home starts with humility, authenticity, and doing the work on yourself