You're Doing Great

There's no guidebook to parenting and it shows. From gentle parenting to authoritative parenting, am I doing it right?! On saving or protecting? Literally, how? And the power struggles from the toddler years and for the rest of your lives. Parenting is hard. Re-parenting is hard. We hope that this episode gives you hope and some peace: as a parent you can't get it all right. And your Self Study Practice will absolutely help you have the relationship with both your children and your parents that's possible.

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @honeytrucker__ and @moore_kate).

It's all fun and games until we get angry. Welcome to this unplanned episode called Rapid Fire Rage featuring Kate, Ruby and special guest: Tini. From white guys with masters degrees to bluetooth malfunction, we rage. Anger is an emotion that so many of us have been taught to stuff down and pretend doesn't exist... obviously that isn't working. In this episode, we rage together. You're doing great. LFG!

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @honeytrucker__ and @moore_kate).

The wives are tired. The husbands are tired. The internet pop-psychology that removes the nuance of our full-humanity as it doles out relationship advice, is tired. Our relationships that are fraught with power dynamics, unspoken expectations, and dated af rules, are tired. 

In this episode, Kate & Ruby dive into the heart of relationships, not just the surface labels of it all. The hot take of being a good wife is that it's not about becoming better at playing a role in your marriage, it's about becoming more of who you already are.

There's a hot game of FMK at the end of this episode too featuring some of the internet's favorite men with microphones: Tim Ferris, Joe Rogan, and Andrew Huberman. 

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @life.with.ruby and @moore_kate).

Ruby and Kate suggest there's a better way to *make love* than by taking a bunch of self-help quizzes and trying to perform love. It can be better. They turn their (loving but not blind) gaze to one of pop-psychology’s favorite tools: “The 5 Love Languages.” While they acknowledge that frameworks can be useful, they also name the very real ways these ideas can be oversimplified, commercialized, and weaponized in relationships.

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @life.with.ruby and @moore_kate).

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

In this first episode of the You're doing Great Podcast (formally known as the "Self Study Podcast,") Ruby and Kate roast the shamey, hustle-glossed corners of the self-help world (“wake up at 3am and cold plunge your way to enlightenment!”), then re-center what real growth looks like: honesty, community, sustainability, and treating your life like a gentle science experiment instead of a never-ending improvement project. It’s spicy, thoughtful, and very “you’re enough already.”

Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @life.with.ruby and @moore_kate).

In this first episode of the You're Doing Great Podcast (formally known as the "Self Study Podcast,") Ruby and Kate roast the shamey, hustle-glossed corners of the self-help world (“wake up at 3am and cold plunge your way to enlightenment!”), then re-center what real growth looks like: honesty, community, sustainability, and treating your life like a gentle science experiment instead of a never-ending improvement project. It’s spicy, thoughtful, and very “you’re enough already.”

The Duality Project is Ruby & Kate’s umbrella for their work in honest, community-rooted growth. Think: real-talk education, coaching, and community that refuse shame and quick-fix hustle. It’s about holding both/and: your tenderness and your power, discipline and rest, individuality and interdependence... so you can choose what actually serves you.

Heartland (their online community): monthly group calls, optional 1:1 coaching, and friendly 30-day micro-challenges to practice self-study in five minutes a day. aka: low-pressure reps for real life.

Follow along: @thedualityproject (plus @life.with.ruby and @moore_kate).

Hosts: Kate and Ruby of The Duality Project

Introduction
**00:00 - 00:29**
- Kate and Ruby introduce themselves and The Duality Project.
- Overview of The Duality Project's mission: empowerment from the inside, intentional living, and intimate relationship building.
- Mention of various resources offered: The Self-Study Program, Self-Study Coaching, Heartland Online Community, My Self-Study Practice Guided Workbook and Journal, and this podcast.

Saturn Return Discussion
**00:29 - 05:04**
- Recap of season two topics: presence, acceptance, trust, courage, freedom, and boundaries.
- Introduction to the concept of Saturn Return in astrology by Ruby.
- Explanation of Saturn's influence and its cycles of approximately 27ish years.
- Ruby shares her personal experience with Saturn Return during the lockdown and the changes it brought.

Metaphor of the Sieve
**05:04 - 11:20**
- Ruby and Kate discuss the metaphor of a sieve to describe the process of filtering out what's unnecessary and keeping what's valuable during Saturn Return.
- Reflection on how rest and periods of upheaval help in clarifying and rejuvenating life.

The Importance of Rest
**11:20 - 22:01**
- Discussion on the necessity of rest and how it helps in maintaining clarity and focus.
- Kate and Ruby share personal experiences and anecdotes about integrating rest into their lives.
- Insights on how rest is not just about doing less, but about what fills you up and rejuvenates you.

Setting Boundaries and Managing Energy
**22:01 - 35:02**
- Exploration of boundaries in personal relationships and the importance of self-respect.
- Discussion on how setting boundaries can sometimes lead to misunderstandings, but is crucial for personal well-being.
- Ruby and Kate share strategies for managing energy and ensuring rest, even during busy periods.

Planning for Rest and Self-Care
**35:02 - 47:50**
- Tips on planning ahead for rest and self-care to avoid burnout.
- Discussion on the importance of downtime during vacations and how to make the most of it.
- Ruby and Kate share personal anecdotes about their own practices for ensuring rest.

Upcoming Retreat Announcement
**47:50 - 58:38**
- Announcement of the upcoming Heartfelt Retreat on November 8-11.
- Details about the retreat location, activities, and the benefits of attending.
- Encouragement for listeners to join and take part in this rejuvenating experience.

Conclusion
**58:38 - 01:00:22**
- Invitation to follow and subscribe to the podcast.
- Mention of social media handles for further engagement.
- Closing thoughts on rest, rejuvenation, and gratitude for the listeners' support.

Contact and Resources
- Follow Kate
- Follow Ruby
- Follow The Duality Project
- Learn more about The Duality Project and the Self-Study Program

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Episode Summary: In this episode, "Boundaries: The Quiet Revolution of Personal Agency and Self-Discovery," we delve into the essential yet often challenging concept of boundaries. We, your hosts and Self Study coaches, Kate and Ruby discuss how boundaries can help us navigate our relationships, careers, and personal lives with greater clarity and intention. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, we explore how setting and maintaining boundaries can lead to a more fulfilling and empowered life.

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Closing Thoughts: May you be empowered to set boundaries that allow you to live a life of joy and purpose. Remember, boundaries are a gift you give yourself and those around you, creating space for mutual respect and understanding. You don't have to always be struggling to deserve a breath. Thank you for joining us on this journey of self-discovery. See you next time!

Dive headfirst into the whirlwind that is 2024 with us on The Self Study Podcast! This episode, featuring Kate and Ruby, is a playful yet profound exploration of what we're bringing in and kicking out as we navigate the new year. Packed with laughter, insights, and a dash of rebellion against the status quo, it's the pep talk you didn't know you needed.   What's In:

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  Play Along: Share your "in and out" list for 2024 and tag us in your revelations. Let's make this year one of growth, giggles, and grounding in what truly matters.   Wrap-Up: Join us as we navigate the ins and outs of 2024, making space for what enriches us and ditching what drains us. It's all about making this year count, with a generous side of laughter and learning.   Click here to learn more about the 2024 Self Study Program

Welcome to another enthralling episode of Full Circle Moments. Today, we're thrilled to bring you a captivating conversation with the vibrant Lauren DeLeary from Curiocity Pod. Hosts Kate and Ruby delve into the heart of life's mysteries with Lauren, exploring how she harmonizes the chaos of her public and private lives. This episode promises to be a deep dive into finding tranquility amidst life's whirlwind, filled with Lauren's enchanting stories and insightful reflections.   In This Episode, We Discuss:

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Closing Thoughts: As we wrap up this episode, we're left with profound insights into staying true to oneself in a world that often pushes for conformity. Lauren's journey is a testament to the power of embracing life's chaos, finding your own rhythm, and discovering joy in the unexpected twists and turns. Join us on this transformative journey and be inspired to carve your own path in the beautiful dance of life.

🎉 Tune In for a Transformative Experience! Are you ready to navigate the paradoxes of life with grace and insight? Tune in to this not-to-be-missed episode for an adventure into the depths of self-discovery and the art of balancing life’s intricate dance!